Does The Past Really Affect Me?

You Learn More About Yourself By Doing This!

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Does The Past Really Affect Me?

What Can I Learn About myself from doing Family History?

What Learning Your Family History Teaches YOU About Yourself

What could learning about those in your family history possibly teach you about yourself?

Have you ever felt something is missing, that you wish you had the rest of the pieces of the puzzle to understanding more about yourself and your family?

What can bring a change for good in your life, and those you love,  that has meaning, purpose and is worthwhile?

As we learn something of the life of our parents, grandparents and so on.  Finding out about who they were, what their stories were, seeing their faces when you come across pictures, your life will change in miraculous ways.

If you would like to put together a Family Tree, I have a FREE EASY one HERE



A wonderful article  Why We Need Family History Now More Than Ever  helps explain What Learning Your Family History Teaches YOU About Yourself says it “can be a powerful antidote against adverse life experiences that we face today” and addresses:

  • Knowing our cultural background and Core Identity helps in understanding who we are as a person.
  • The importance of Connecting with those in our present, our past and our future; as it fulfills an innate need we all have, as well as forming powerful relationships.
  • As we learn about our family members (including those who are long gone) and their trials and struggles, we become more Compassionate towards all people; a tremendous talent.
  • We can learn to be more Resilient when we learn about the hardships and disappointments those in our family tree overcame, or succumbed to.  Important life lessons can be learned from their successes and failures.
  • Recording our history, that of our family and our ancestors, is one of the most Selfless acts we can do, as it can bless countless lives.
  • Our Self Worth becomes more clear as we see God’s hand in our life and that of our family through generations as we learn their stories and understand more how valuable each and every person is in His site.

Threads In A Tapestry

May I suggest that we are linked to our family members, those living, and those who are deceased, much as a thread. As we search through our family generations, we can see how they bring their own unique talents, skills, abilities and knowledge for us to learn from, adding in their threads.  Combining threads to make our tapestry exquisite and more valuable as it grows.

As one person, one beautiful thread, we are weak and can easily be unraveled.  However when woven together, with our relatives showing their colorful, distinctive and exceptional threads in their own right, our tapestry gains strength and cannot be unraveled.  We, our own thread, are now secure, have a place, and continue on as we learn and  understand our own special family and their history.



To explain how family history can give a loose thread, a person a place to belong and an understanding of life, my friend, whom I will call ‘L’ is allowing me to share her story:


Why I do family history by ‘L’

I came from a battered and broken family.

My father raised me in a very remote area away from most of civilization. My life was shattered when he died when I was only eleven years old. I never really felt like I fit in after that. I struggled socially and emotionally. I lived with a sister, and later friends, but something was always missing in my life.

One day when I was about fifteen I came across some records my father had kept.

It listed my aunts and uncles and grandparents. They were all deceased, my father had been the youngest, but that tiny bit of information started me looking for my family. 

It took years but with each bit of information I became more comfortable with myself and my family as I came to know them.

When life was rough I could immerse myself in my family history.

Through this I came to ‘know’ my grandmother and grandfather. I felt their suffering as I learned about the places they had lived, the work they had done and the deaths that struck the family. The big successes and tragedies were occasionally recorded in newspapers; most of the story is found in the small amount of information recorded on such things as marriage licenses, birth and death certificates, censuses and land deeds. Little things like who lived in the house, was the home rented or owned, what work they did, and where they lived. I put all the little pieces together and a story began to emerge. One that brought me understanding and peace.

Through the years I have grown to love a family I never met and I feel sure that they love me too.

I now know who I am and feel confident about my place in this world.

‘L’ concludes with this profound statement and warning to us all about what we leave, and why we need to search out our living and deceased relatives:

When a person dies a library of knowledge vanishes.



Anywhere In the World!

What Learning Your Family History Teaches YOU About Yourself

is part of a series, and I am thrilled to begin here on how to start at the beginning to find your family members. We will begin basic and move along as the posts continue.  You will find the resources are truly amazing, all free, as well as printables I will provide to help you for your better success and experience.

So where do we begin?

My long-time friend, Tara is going to teach us how to research our family, no matter where in the world we live!

She was so kind to break it into very simple steps for us, so let’s get started!


Steps To EASILY Search Your Family Tree


Step 1 –

Click HERE to go to and you will find  the area titled: FAMILY TREE


Step 2 –

Click on the title: FAMILY TREE  or HERE


Step 3 –

Type in your name and information and keep adding to the name of the nearest deceased relative.  FamilySearch will do an automatic search for the deceased person to see if that person has already been added to FamilySearch.  If they have been added previously, you just need to click “add”.  If not, you will need to create a “new” person.


Step 4 –

Once that person’s name comes up, click on that person to see information to add to it, or see what’s there!


If nothing appears then you get to start your very own Family Tree!

Easy Peasy!!!



I have TWO FREE Family Tree TEMPLATES in my post:Free Kids, Teens & Adult Fill-In Family Tree with Pictures Template

Another wonderful resource for Geneaology is Rachel’s beginners guide to Genealogy:



One way to build and to strengthen family bonds and relationships is to create a scrapbook or picture book.

It records stories and pictures those who have gone before, or your family now. It really is important for us and our children to connect with the past to help them define who they are and it gives a sense of belonging.  Knowing ancestors gives a sense of pride in heritage and direction. It is also a way to learn valuable lessons from those who have gone on before and the pictures help connect visually in a powerful way. 

My family and I have used BLURB to make our photo book and we have had great experiences in quality and customer service.  If you are interested you can click HERE for more information. 

Build STRONG FAMILIES by recording stories and protecting pictures for generations to come.


Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2017, 2018

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