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Which Direction Are You Choosing To Go In Life?

This way or that way

Which Way?

I followed the wrong sign


Many years ago when I first began driving, I moved to live with my dad about 130 miles from where I was living at the time.

My mom and dad had divorced when I was nine years old, and had made the trip more times then I could count.

However, I never paid attention to exactly how and where the road signs and directions connected.

After I received my drivers license, I wanted to go visit mom and my friends. Dad was kind enough to allow me to take his car and drive the trip to spend a few days with them. 

Now this was wwaaayyy before cell phones, GPS, Mapquest, or any of the other very helpful tools that we have now for navigation. I had a map that you would get for free sometimes, or purchase at the gas station.

The map was all fine and dandy—provided you could read it.

I didn’t bother to get out a marker and study it before I left to make sure I understood where I was going.

Dad only said, ‘It’s easy, just stay on I-15 and you’ll be fine.



I drove to mom’s following the signs and made it just fine. We visited and I saw my friends. It was a great time.

The time came to drive home and as I drove, I came to signs and chose I-15 as dad had said.

After driving for an hour or so I recognized the area, as it was familiar to me. Quickly I understood that I was not where I was supposed to be.

It was a another small town I had once lived in, and not the larger city I was meant to be in by now.

I had to drive for miles in order to find change for a pay phone (ask your mom or grandma if you don’t know what this is) and called dad.

Luckily he was home to answer the phone (again, ask someone older, lol).

I told dad where I was and said I had stayed on I-15 just as he had instructed. As we talked it out, we realized I had taken I-15 South instead of I-15 North.


Why my story you may ask?

Well, because it is hard to end up at the right destination if we don’t have, or know, a correct course or path our self.

Stan and I were asked to volunteer at the Women’s state prison facility once a month for a couple of years.

When arriving, first we had to be let into the building by being escorted by those with a special clearance, higher than ours. It was several hundred feet to the security, allowing us into the area where we would be with the women prisoners for the evening.

Often, as we moved from doors to the other side, I would slow my steps to peer through the glass window to my left. I watched the women inmates who had earned the privilege to visit with their family or friends.

My heart would break and my eyes teared, as I saw so frequently saw the grandmother or grandfather with the grandchildren in tow, visiting their daughters, the mothers of the children.

Visibly the grandparent was burdened in every aspect of life with the situation their posterity was in. It mattered not who had caused what; it was reality to be lived with, each and every single day for everyone involved.

I pray for all who are suffering, as we all have trials, weaknesses and challenges to overcome. No one is perfect, we are all here to learn, grow and become better – as we help each other along.. 



Prison and The Road Signs

1- My first mistake was not to take the time, or effort to make sure I understood the map 

Laziness, Distration and Apathy

2- My second mistake was to not have change for a payphone ready

Are we spiritually, emotionally and physically prepared for the challenges of today?

How can we do this? Do we take the time to study and ponder what do we believe, what do we care about, what are our values and morals? How do we become a better person?


3- My third mistake was to not ask a person of trust, one that is truly worthy of confidence, before I left for directions. I had another chance for help and didn’t take it!

I have a list of 6 B’s to help us become better prepared to LEARN so we can PRACTICE and BECOME the kind of person others can trust to follow for peace and happiness, as my header guides:

  1. Be Grateful
  2. Be Smart
  3. Be Clean
  4. Be True
  5. Be Humble
  6. Be Prayerful     *For more explanation on each of these click HERE [1]


These are some of the ways we can have bearing and direction to lead our-self, our family and our posterity in happiness. 

 We may not be in a physical prison as those women were on the other side of the glass.

We may not be in the middle of a lonely road with only jack rabbits scampering about as company as we try to figure out the road signs.


We are each here at this time for a special, unique and wonderful purpose.

The talents and gifts we bring are needed and wanted.

We need to be focused on going the right direction so we are a benefit and reliable to those who look to use and count on us to take them in worthy and safe directions.

I know we can do this!!!

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015, 2020

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