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How, Why and When to Write a Thank You Card for All Ages
What do you think about a handwritten card?
Is it worth the time and effort in this day of texts, emails, face-time chats and all the other technology offerings today?
Just recently I received a card in the mail, and it was handwritten by my friend Melinda.
Not long after, I received a handwritten card that was also hand made by my friend Natalie.
Imagine my delight in opening those two cards.
One that was special in that it was created just for me. And the other containing kind words of encouragement and appreciation.
Those cards are beyond anything that money can buy.
WHY is a handwritten card so remarkable today with all that can be ordered, downloaded and delivered almost immediately?
WHY is a handwritten card so special when we can also receive emails, texts and calls; that are good, well-meaning and inspiring.
BECAUSE when a person takes a few minutes to write something to YOU, that takes the small and simple effort of writing a card or letter, you KNOW they are truly thinking of YOU.
In this area, I need to readily confess, my sister-in-law Ruthann is my example and guide in this area of writing Thank You notes. She and her family write them regularly and often.
When my kids were young and growing up, I did much better at helping them get theirs off in the mail when a gift would arrive, or after a birthday or holiday. I even did alright some years later delivering them to neighbors for kindnesses done and help given. But the last years have taken their toll on my energy, time and drained me of focus on some important details – this being one of them.
So how about if we learn how to write cards together?
We can practice them often by following the steps below.
Then become a better person as we show and express gratitude to others. I put out the challenge to write a thank you note once a week, and not to the same person in a six month time. Let’s see how we can do:)
WHY IS A THANK YOU CARD IMPORTANT?
I personally believe that when we sit down to write, we are unimpeded by electronic devices to interrupt our thoughts, or to quickly pull up a meme to ‘speak’ for us. As we sit with a pen and paper, we can reach deep down, think about what we want to say and how we feel, then put it on paper and feel the sentiment and thankfulness to that person as we write.
It’s a connecting and emotional bond between you and the person you are writing to.
1-It is a way to strengthen relationships as you write to them about what they did for you. It shows that you are deliberate in how you thanking them. It means a lot to all of us in this busy world we live in.
2- They can physically hold and re-read your thoughtful note. Feel the emotion that would be a hand-shake, an embrace or a genuine smile as you express your gratitude.
3- As we write more thank you notes, we feel more appreciative, more in-tune with our many blessings, and that makes us more joyful. We are present and mindful of what we feel, what we are grateful for and the handwritten note is more meaningful because of this act.
4- A big condition to writing a thank you note is not to expect anything in return. Remember, this is about them, and helping them feel better about what they did. You may never, ever hear from the person you thanked, and that’s OK! Keep in mind this process is making us better and bringing us happiness to pass on to those around us – what could be a greater reward than that!?!
Are you ready?
How, Why and When to Write a Thank You Card for All Ages
Card to write a note of thank you and gratitude
The Purpose of How, Why and When to Write a Thank You Card for All Ages:
This is a really simple, but it’s important, it’s called KINDNESS.
We are going to write a THANK YOU CARD!
You know, to tell someone thanks for_______whatever________.
There are a billion reasons to say how grateful we are for a kindness and it’s never too late to express it!
Sometimes we may not always know what to say, or wonder where to start; so let’s get the how’s, why’s – and the WHEN is NOW.
It’s So Simple with these 5 EASY Steps!
You only need TWO Supplies-
Paper and Pen, or whatever you prefer to write with.
- I like a good pen that dries quickly, doesn’t skip and writes smooth. THESE look to be a great fit. I like how many come in a package – mine always seem to ‘borrowed’ by my kids or grand kids. Having good pens set aside for this purpose is a really good idea so we don’t procrastinate.
- I have a free download Thank You card you can send HERE
- A free download color-in Thank you card for your boys to send HERE
- A free download color-in Thank you card for your girls to send HERE
- My friend Natalie makes handmade cards that anyone would be proud to send and thrilled to receive. You can find Natalie HERE
- Or if you’d prefer to order cards online, you might like THIS or THIS STYLE
WHO TO SEND A THANK YOU CARD TO:
- Anyone of course!
- Someone who helped you out
- Anyone who could use cheering up
- The mail carrier
- A friend you haven’t seen in years
- A neighbor who took in your garbage can for you
- Someone who brought in a meal
- Someone who shared a treat at work
- Think of someone who made a difference in your life for good
- Anyone who did anything positive!
HOW TO START:
- Make sure you have the spelling correct of the names. It’s so easy with social media to look it up. Call your mom or grandparents if you can’t find it. Also, use the proper title when appropriate such as –
- Hi Uncle______
- Hello Aunt______
- Dear Grandma______
- Etc. It’s really nice to have some recognition, and a little formality in its proper place.
EXPRESS YOUR THANKS/GRATITUDE FOR WHAT THE CARD IS INTENDED:
Phrases like these are perfect, to make sure the person KNOWS what you are expressing gratitude or thanking them for in this note; that’s the point, right:)
- You really made my day when….
- I want to say how much I appreciate…..
- Thank you for…….
- It meant so much to me……
TARGET THE PERSON – BE SPECIFIC – MAKE IT PERSONAL:
- Let the person know you miss them
- Tell them what an inspiration they have been to you
- Tell them what a difference _____ has made (for good here) in your life
- Thank them for the time they took to teach you in school, to cook, to learn to change the oil in your car, to fix the chain on your bike, in a 4-H club or other youth organization. Time is precious and that they gave it up for you is a treasure.
- If they gave you a gift, let them know how you will use it
- If you stayed with them, be sure to thank them for their hospitality
- Thank someone for listening to you, taking time from their day to be with you, for being a friend
- This list could go on for pages, but this is a springboard to hopefully get you thinking
These closings are generally acceptable in most situations –
- Many thanks
- Kind Regards
Other closings to consider as appropriate –
- Yours truly
- Friends Forever
That’s it, 5 easy steps to make a huge impact on someone else’s life, and you will be amazed at the enjoyment it brings to yours along the way.
Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2019
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