Freezer Jam

Easy Strawberry Freezer Jam

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Freezer Jam

Best Easy No Cook Strawberry Freezer Jam

Easy Strawberry Freezer Jam

Have you ever wondered how to make strawberry freezer jam?

Well, I have taught so many people how to make freezer jam that I’ve lost count now, and I can teach you too!

This type of  homemade Freezer Strawberry Jam is so delicious because it uses fresh fruit; making the taste absolutely phenomenal. 

Seriously,  there’s no comparison to the purchased type. As you spoon or slather on the taste of summer strawberries, you’ll think of relaxing sunshine and unwind while you enjoy, 

It’s best to make this recipe when the strawberries are peak freshness, in season and inexpensive and economical. 

I like to store the prepared jam in small individual freezer bags so I have it available anytime of the year. The containers and baggies I double protect by placing them in a larger bag, before storing in the freezer.

Here’s a nifty trick:  I keep a shoe box in my freezer where I place the freezer jam filled baggies which prevents them from sliding around and getting lost in the shuffle of any other food in the freezer. It also makes them easy to find and rotate

Another idea, is to make up batches of the easy no cook strawberry freezer jam, pour it into small containers with tight fitting lids, and freeze it (as directed on the package) to give as gifts for Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, birthdays — or just because. Click HERE for the free labels I had made just for you!

This delicious Easy Strawberry Freezer Jam would be so yummy on my moist homemade CornBread or for a special treat on the No Sour Dough Start Artisan Bread , now that would be amazing! Let’s make jam!!!

No Cook Strawberry Freezer Jam


1 box of pectin. 

2 quarts of strawberries *disclaimer:  If any of the berries look like you will have to trim off spots, or areas that are not ripe, buy a bit more.  If you have extra berries….nummy, you get to eat them!  (check on the box/instructions of pectin for amount to be sure)

4 cups of white sugar (again, check the box/instructions of the pectin)

Containers with tight fitting lids  (disposable or even glass jam jars would make darling gifts) that hold 1/2 cup to 2 cups / zip lock freezer baggies. 


Wash and dry the containers you have chosen; not necessary with new freezer baggies. Easy Strawberry Freezer Jam

est Easy No Cook Strawberry Freezer Jam

Cut the strawberries into large chunks, if you like some texture to your jam. 


If you like a smooth jam, simply chop the berries really small.

Now, with the chunked berries, mash them a little with a potato mashers IF you like little bits of fruit in your jam.

Easy Strawberry Freezer Jam

Best Easy No Cook Strawberry Freezer Jam

In a separate bowl measure the exact amount of prepared fruit as called for in the recipe – don’t be tempted to add or decrease.

In another bowl measure the exact amount of sugar no less or no more – the exact amount called for.

This step prevents mistakes!

Easy Strawberry Freezer Jam

Best Easy No Cook Strawberry Freezer Jam

Stir the sugar into the prepared fruit, mix it well and let it stand for 10 minutes stirring frequently – no cheating here!   

Pectin, which is what causes the jam to set up, is in the box along with the instructions.

Take out the packet and pour it into a small saucepan adding in the required amount of water (which you will find on the instruction sheet in the box). 

The mixture will start out lumpy, but keep stirring until it comes to a boil on high heat.Easy Strawberry Freezer JamStir CONSTANTLY!!!  It burns easily and you don’t want to waste it. 

Boil, still stirring for 1 (ONE) full minute. 

Remove the pan from the heat and stir the pectin mixture into the fruit.

Stir constantly until the sugar is COMPLETELY DISSOLVED and no longer grainy, about 5 minutes.  

This is very important or your jam will ‘sugar’ and be grainy, very distasteful to eat.

Notice my little trick of lining a measuring cup with the baggie so I can fill it easily,

Pretty snazzy, right!

Fill whatever containers you desire. 

Disposable, baggies, glass… Make sure to date and label them. 

IMPORTANT STEP:  You must let the jam, in the baggies or containers sit at room temperature for 24 (count ’em 24) hours

This allows time for the sugar to completely dissolve and the pectin to do its work.

  • AFTER 24 hours, the jam is ready to eat, put in the freezer and take to someone who could use a little happiness.
  • Note:  When the jam is in the freezer, it never completely sets up hard because of the sugar content, so don’t worry when it’s not solid.
  • When taking the jam out of the freezer, allow it to thaw in the refrigerator.
  • Refrigerated jam will last up to 3 weeks and in the freezer for 1 year.
  • This jam is amazing in homemade shakes, on waffles or pancakes (click HERE for my recipe) on toast, you name it!



I hope you enjoy these labels or tags I had created just for you to use with your Freezer Strawberry Jam.  You will find them HERE

You can easily gift this Freezer Strawberry Jam in a basket with biscuits, such as these my very favorite ones that stay tender and moist.  They are so easy to make and you can find them in my Cookbook, Carrie’s Cooking For Keeps, which is HERE and HERE

Be creative when thinking about what to put your jam in. Jars from the Dollar Store make adorable containers for this Homemade Freezer Strawberry Jam.

Baked frozen roll dough, a filled cute jar with an attached label you can get HERE would make anyone feel extra to receive your delicious homemade Strawberry Freezer Jam. 

Spread the sweetness and make someone’s day better as you gift a bit of your yummy, easy to make homemade Freezer Strawberry Jam. 

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2013, 2018

Kids making posters

Posters For Local Assisted Living Or Care Center

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Kids making posters

Kids of all ages can easily make general or themed posters or decorations for your local Assisted Living or Care Center

Posters For Local Assisted Living Or Care Center

If we teach our family to be kind and to serve, it is one of the most important attributes we can give to them. 

It’s an investment of time and energy that’s never a waste, or unappreciated, even if things do not always go perfectly during the process. 

However, if we are persistent, we will see amazing results in how our family reaches out to each other with kindness.

 So how can we help them learn to  serve with all the demands on our busy schedules?

This project is super easy, quick to prepare and inexpensive.

And the best part is besides our family doing a worthwhile activity, those who benefit from our kind service with will appreciate our time and effort.

Another huge plus, this can be done by ALL AGES!!! 


PURPOSE: Did you know that many Care Centers and Assisted Living facilities do not have the funds for every day and holiday decorations? 

In fact, some who live there may not even have loved ones near by to visit, or bring them a little something to spruce up their room, or the central area where they gather to eat and visit.

By a simple act of making a general or themed decoration, it shows a huge amount of kindness, as well as teaching our family to look beyond them self and to others.

And don’t worry about how crafty you are, or aren’t, the residents will be thrilled with any type of decoration that you come up with.  

I have younger grand-kids right now; up to eight years old,  and this is how they can be creative, and it’s perfect!

It’s so simple!


poster board, markers, crayons and foam shapes.  You can certainly do anything your heart desires from painting simple foam table decorations to crafting extravagantly; all depending on your ability and the ages of course.  Everything will be appreciated!

Be sure to explain who the posters are for and why they were making them, then let the fun begin!!!

Working on general themed posters to take to the local Assisted Living/Care Center

Kids making posters

Kids of all ages can easily make general or themed posters or decorations for your local Assisted Living or Care Center

Kids making posters

Kids of all ages can easily make general or themed posters or decorations for your local Assisted Living or Care Center


Here are the themed posters we did for Halloween – 

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

For this project, we had five posters to deliver when the kiddos were finished. 

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

Due to schedules and school, only one of the grand kids could help deliver the posters on behalf of our family.

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

Meeting many of the residents was the highlight!  They were finishing a program when we arrived, so this little cutie had the opportunity to meet some who lived at this particular care center.

After the shyness wore off, she visited and had a good time.

Those there, expressed their gratitude and happiness at having others care enough to take the time to make decorations for them and bring some ‘holiday fun’ to their doors.  They hoped for ‘every-day’ decorations too:) (Note: There was only one little decorated bowl in the entire place that my daughter and I could see, so this is a need everywhere, if you  are interested in this type of service, for any month of the year!)

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2017, 2018

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A printable is attached for download tags for giving to others that are Valentine specific. They can be put on a treat or a small gift to let a friend, family member or co-worker know that you are thinking of them at this holiday time.

Valentine Service and How YOU Can Spread The Love

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A printable is attached for download tags for giving to others that are Valentine specific. They can be put on a treat or a small gift to let a friend, family member or co-worker know that you are thinking of them at this holiday time.

Do you like Valentines?  Is it a holiday that makes you happy?

Valentine Service and How YOU Can Spread The Love will make it the BEST either way. 


If it’s a long anticipated one, or one that isn’t so affectionately looked towards (pun intended), a Thoughtful Valentine Kindness Sweetens Our Day Too, making it a fabulous time no matter what.


It’s easy to get caught up in our own day-to-day life, forgetting others have heavy burdens to carry also.  

Valentines gives us the opportunity to look outside ourselves and see who we can serve.


See, when we help others by thinking of them, it makes us better, which fills us with joy.

I have some ideas below of how you can use the download printable tags in easy ways, to drop off treats to friend, family, neighbors, or even better, stop by and pay a visit.


Think of who might be alone, maybe a spouse isn’t here right now such as in the military, or  who could use cheering up, or a thinking-of-you. 

You will have a list in no time at all of who would love to receive one of these adorable little tags with a sweet treat or a small gift attached.  

I have found that when I am ever down, if I serve, I am much happier and my burden is lifted.  So try this Thoughtful Valentine Kindness and see if it doesn’t sweeten your day too!

The FREE Printable is HERE


Some delicious and easy ideas for homemade treats are:

Easy White Chocolate Popcorn and Valentine M&M’s

Yummy White Chocolate Bark

A printable is attached for download tags for giving to others that are Valentine specific. They can be put on a treat or a small gift to let a friend, family member or co-worker know that you are thinking of them at this holiday time.

Valentines Sweetheart Muddy Buddy Chex Mix

Easy Sweetheart French Palmier Cookies

A printable is attached for download tags for giving to others that are Valentine specific. They can be put on a treat or a small gift to let a friend, family member or co-worker know that you are thinking of them at this holiday time.

No Fail Easy Nut Clusters – however use Valentine Sprinkles on topA printable is attached for download tags for giving to others that are Valentine specific. They can be put on a treat or a small gift to let a friend, family member or co-worker know that you are thinking of them at this holiday time.

Fill with purchased candy, such as Valentine M&M’s

A printable is attached for download tags for giving to others that are Valentine specific. They can be put on a treat or a small gift to let a friend, family member or co-worker know that you are thinking of them at this holiday time.


More Kindness ideas for YOU HERE

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2018

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

The Candy Bomber

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  This very special man went above and beyond his duties in the military.





  • Do you wonder if you have anything to offer and what good a little could do?
  • Does our existence matter in the grand scheme of things?

To help us understand the tremendous scope of our small efforts, let’s look at the story of “The Candy Bomber”.

In 1948 Gail Halvorsen was a Lieutenant in the US Air Force when Russia blockaded food and all supplies to West Berlin. To prevent the people from starving, the Americans and British began dropping airlifts of food to the city.

Gail was one of the many pilots involved in this huge effort. While in Berlin, he saw a group of children standing on the other side of a fence watching for the planes. He knew they were hungry, as most were in the city, but Gail only had two sticks of gum on him. What could he do, there were so many children, and he only a miniscule amount of food, and candy at that.

He approached the fence and felt impressed to share the gum. He broke the gum in halves, making four pieces, and was a bit nervous that a fight, or worse, would break out when he gave this small offering through the fence. These children had already been through so much in their young lives, and what could 4 small pieces of gum possibly do to help them? Could he protect small ones who might be harmed if there were a rush on those who did get the gum since a fence separated him from the children?

Again, the impression to share came. He followed the feeling and reached out to the children with the small pieces of gum.

The children pressed forward, but did not over power the lucky four who did get the candy. Gail waited, almost without breathing to see what would happen. The four fortunate receivers of the candy shared, even tearing the wrappers into strips to be passed around for the others to smell the sweet scent of its previous contents.

Halvorson was amazed. He had never witnessed that kind of selflessness and happiness at such a small (or even a grand) gift. The feeling of almost reverence hung over the children as they showed delight for those who had actually gotten a piece of the gum, and gratitude to simply hold a small remnant of such special contents.

Those children acted graciously, with dignity and empathy to their fellow beings, rather than selfishly or ‘it’s all about me and what I can get’.

For a moment, let’s put ourselves in their situation.

  • They were in a horrible time of distress, hunger, some had loneliness for mother, father and family. 
  • Much of what they had know had been ripped from their lives as an enemy surrounded their homes.
  • Surely they wondered how long they might live in such circumstances, yet they looked for each others comfort as best they could and not for their own pleasure or instant gratification.

When Gail grasped what was happening and how these poor souls were responding, he promised to drop more candy the next day.

So that the children would be able to identify his plane from all the others flying overhead, he told them he would wiggle his airplane wings.

That night he gathered all the candy he could from his kindhearted fellow pilots, fashioned parachutes from handkerchiefs so they would fall a bit more slowly and more easily be seen by the children.

Can you imagine the hope, the desire to live to see another day those children felt as they waited the long night, praying that someone, a stranger even, would care enough about them to come back, with just a small token of kindness?

Gail kept his word and as he flew overhead, he wiggled the wings of his plane and let go of his small, but precious cargo.

Halverson’s military buddies were also heroes in this story.

Candy and rations were as valuable as currency in Germany at that time, yet they gladly gave of their rations to help support this effort for the children of Germany.

After dropping several of these parachutes over the next few days, the local newspapers began to report of the ‘candy bombs’, and suddenly letters by the bundles came addressed to “Uncle Wiggly Wings” or “The Chocolate Pilot”, as children all over the city requested they too have special candy parachutes dropped to them.

Newspapers in America also picked up the story, and Americans were eager to help with this cause.  In fact, people all over the United States anxiously sent their own contributions to Gail to ‘parachute’ to the children.

Soon afterward, entire train boxcars were sent from the candy manufacturers in the United States to help in this effort. By this time the US Air Force was involved and many were helping in this cause, not just Gail and his plane.

The blockade ended the next spring and the parachuted candy was no longer needed.

What can we learn from this wonderful and selfless act by Gail Halverson?

  • How we act towards others, even in times of our own desperate need, does affect the outcome.
  • Even when ‘justified’ due to any number of situations, health, trying circumstances, reversal of resources and other factors, our actions most certainly determines blessings for ourselves and countless others.
  • The choice made by Mr. Halverson to act lovingly, and to follow an impression for good, though he did not know the outcome, tremendously affected numerous lives.
  • All, from the military buddies, to those who sacrificed to send a bit of candy to help – every person who was charitable and generous, gave the greatest gift they could; that of hope. They were sympathetic, concerned and cared about total strangers that they would never meet, or benefit from in a public way, they just loved and acted.

In this day of far too many taking advantage of another, or looking for an excuse to benefit at the expense of someone else, I hope we will teach this story to our family, learn from it and see the far reaching effects from a group of children who loved each other more than themselves.  Because those children looked beyond their own needs and acted as they did, thousands and possibly tens of thousands lives were influenced for the better.

God knew those children and what they needed most at that time.

He knows us and what we need right now.

God did not end the suffering as soon as it began; instead He prompted a listening person to do His work, and gave others the opportunity to lift the burden of another in need. To love as He loves and to act as He would act.

I hope we will do the small and simple acts of kindness as soon as the impression comes to our mind, and to teach our families this same principle.   We will be incredibly blessed for doing so.Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2013

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

Drink Card 1

Sweet Card of Encouragement

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Drink Card 1

Sweet Card of Encouragement

My husband Stan created this card for me a couple of years ago, to give to friends and neighbors when they were having a difficult day.  Occasionally we all need a little something to urge us along and know that someone is cheering for us.

I wanted to do a tutorial so you could make your own, and Dorthy was incredibly accommodating to help me with measurements and instructions.

Thanks again Dorthy for helping me and THANK YOU Stan for making it up in the first place!

Thinking of You Drink Mix Card


1 – 8 ½ “ X 5 ½ “ cardstock 2 – small brads

1 – 4” X 5 ¼” printed paper small hole punch

Scissors or paper cutter 1 – drink mix packet


For SMALLER drink packets, use the following measurements:

1 – 3 ½ “ X 11” cardstock 1 – 1” X 3 ¾” cardstock

1 – 3” X 5” printed paper 1 – 3’ x 4 ¼” coordinating printed paper


For LARGER drink packet, use these measurements as it is larger than the other types:

1 – 4” X 5” coordinating printed paper paper glue

1 – 1” X 4” cardstock round 7/8” punch (opt)


Here are examples:

The SMALLER Crystal Light drink mix – the generic types would be in this category also would use the smaller measurements.

The LARGER lemonade and fruit punch drink mixes would use the larger measurements.Drink Card 1


Cut out all pieces

Drink Graduation Card 1Fold card stock in half.  Glue 4” X 5 ½” on front of card centering it.Drink Graduation Card 2On the back of the 4” X 5” piece of paper mark the center on the 4” sideDrink Graduation Card 3Use the round punch and make a small notch on the center markDrink Graduation Card 4

Run glue down the 5” edge. (only about ¼” wide)Drink Graduation Card 5Overlap the other side and glue into a tubeDrink Graduation Card 6Flatten the tube so that the notch is centeredDrink Graduation Card 7

Run glue down the center back and then one on each sideDrink Graduation Card 8Glue on the card at an angleDrink Graduation Card 9Slide drink mix into tubeDrink Graduation Card 10Print your greeting and glue onto 1” X 4” cardstock (Dorthy used catsup 18).Drink Graduation Card 11

Hold it over drink mix and punch holes for the bradsDrink Graduation Card 12You may need to use an awl on the left side.Drink Card 2

Drink Graduation Card 14Put the brads in place. Easy peasy!Drink Graduation Card 16

Drink Graduation Card 15Voila!   Now make someone’s day a little sweeter and you will be amazed what it does for YOU!Drink Card 3Drink Card 2Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2014

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Popular Post – What Language Are YOU Speaking?

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What language are YOU speaking?

 When I was a young girl my family lived just outside a larger city. My parents divorced, my mom remarried and we moved to a small rural town where my stepfather had been raised.

Many things were different, but the language change was quite unexpected, particularly since we only moved a couple of hundred miles.

All of the sudden ‘t’s’ for, some unknown reason, were not pronounced anymore, such as mountain was now mounnaan. And vowels took on an entirely new sound; corn was now carn, horse was now harse, corner was now carner…you get my point?

Well, one day my step dad asked my mom to go out to the camp trailer and get the cards. We played cards regularly, so for him to ask for the cards was not uncommon.

Mom came back with the deck of cards to which he said, ‘I want the cards, please go get the cards.’

She went back out to the camp trailer again looking for another deck of cards. She came back and replied there were no other cards. He was quite exasperated at this point, stomped passed us, went to the trailer and came back holding an extension cord, waving it above his head and said quite loudly, “Here’s the card, I wanted the card!”

A funny story, but how do we communicate with our family and others?

  •  Do we expect them to read our minds (oohhh, ladies we are good at that one aren’t we – some guys are too)?
  • Do we want them to acknowledge our irritated voice, whether it is warranted or not, and do as we want just to keep us calm and quiet?
  • Do we use vulgar or crude language to try to bully others into agreeing with us, or even thinking it will make us look more important or sophisticated?

Years ago I decided, actually I made the conscious choice, not to swear or use profane language. Now mind you I have many, many weaknesses and human frailties, so don’t think I’m being preachy here. However, I can witness that my choice has quenched many a fires of contention because I didn’t add fuel to the flame with my language. In fact one of my adult children told me not too long ago, that they had a nightmare in which I was swearing and carrying on and they didn’t know what to do!

I believe we choose our character with how we talk and what we say. If we desire to edify and strengthen others it comes back one-hundred fold as a blessing.

Some foolishly believe that to cut others down, ridicule or to be sarcastic serves the purpose of making them look better.

When quite the opposite is true! When we are free with compliments, give credit to any and all who deserve even a smidgen, it only lifts us higher. We can’t climb when we are putting down and pulling apart our base. On the other hand, we climb to heights unknown when we strengthen the base by building others around us.

We have freedom to say what we will, and in the manner we desire. But remember that our tongue is mightier and more powerful than any weapon that ever has been, or ever will be created. Why? Because it can hinder, or even destroy the human spirit – devastate the soul who is looking to you for encouragement, guidance and nurture.

Let’s all try to cheer others in their journey, just as if we were on the sidelines of a runner who needed confidence that they could make it to the finish line of their problem at hand, as well as life.

Let us each acknowledge another persons hurt, or a difficult circumstance. Tell them you believe in them, and most importantly, that you truly care about them.

As we practice compassion and being more kindhearted, we will become a more noble and excellent soul.

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

Send 'em a little Love

Grandparents Corner & Family: Send 'em a little Love

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Send 'em a little Love
It's In The Mail! 3

Send ’em a little Love

Who said we have to wait for a birthday or holiday to send a little something to say, “I’m thinking of you”, “I love you”, “Thank you”, or even a “Hello” to a grandchild, niece, nephew, son, daughter, sister, brother, friend – anyone!!   


I tried an experiment, just for all of you, and it worked! You can send pretty much anything in the mail (careful about too much weight or size if on a budget). I mailed puzzles right in their own box, candy in its own wrapper, balls, a box of fruit snacks and fruit roll ups in the box right from the store,  pringle cans with treats inside (no chips involved here) and lots of fun items.  
I typed up the address of the person I was sending the gift, toy or treat to, along with my return address and took it to the post office.
The postal worker told me that she once had a coconut come through.  A coconut, just as you buy them, with the address taped on the outside sent right through the mail!   It's In The Mail! 14 Another unusual item was a baseball bat.  Just the bat!  The sender had written a little note on the bat with a sharpie marker, then taped the sender and recipients address, all right on the bat itself.
Here’s some ideas for fun things to send in the mail. Just click on the picture!



White Chocolate Shoes - Artist Squiggle


TIP: For the pringles can, I put a little note inside of a sandwich baggie and put it inside with the cookies I sent so it wouldn’t get greasy from the oils of the cookies.Bethany JacoAnother TIP:  I found out the hard way, is that some coatings of balls and toys come off with the tape used to attach the address.

It's In The Mail! 19All ages will appreciate a little show of love, thoughtfulness and kindness by receiving an unexpected gift in their mail box. 

Now, for fun containers to put your little ‘mail-of-love’ in. 

Here are just a few ideas I collected around the house; you probably have quite a few of the same.  Be sure the container is sturdy and tape it securely closed. It's In The Mail! 15

Would you like to send a party in a bottle?

Well, here you go.It's In The Mail! 35
Again click on the image

Rinse out a large pop bottle and allow it to dry thoroughly.
Take off wrapper and make a slit about 4″-6″ where the glue is from the label (you can save yourself the trouble of cleaning it off, it will not matter). It's In The Mail! 33

It's In The Mail! 34Into the slit, stuff confetti, foil shreds, wired ribbon, anything your heart desires.

Then slip in the gift, keep in mind where it is going and will it melt before reaching its destination.It's In The Mail! 32

Type or hand write the name and address of the recipient of your fabulous ‘party’, and be sure to include your return address.

It is best to double layer the paper, then simply tape the address over the slit. 

Everyone will be amazed at how YOU took a minute to send a little MAGIC in the mail, and appreciate your thoughtfulness.It's In The Mail! 36Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2013

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'Do Unto Others'

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 Do Unto Others

 I’m sure every person who has ever gone to school has had some form of another student(s) being unkind or purposefully hurtful, yet it seems that this is becoming a serious problem. Maybe with the advance in technology it makes it easier to be callous if you do not have to say things to another directly. Or maybe the attitude in society has shifted towards a more aggressive manner. There may be several components to this escalation in demeaning and violent way of behaving.
Nevertheless, there is a definite shift from the sage wisdom and counsel to do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Do you wonder if this change is because of a ‘me’ attitude? Could it be from an ‘entitled’ mind-set?
Probably both of these and more reasons are involved.
This would be a pertinent subject and timely with school starting, for a serious, loving and open discussion about what bullying is.  Could our children be victims or the perpetrators? If so, it is imperative that we as care-giver/parent/ grandparent are willing to deal with whatever maybe the case, so action can be taken.

 If our child is the victim, it is important to support him or her; here are some action plans:

  • Listen and focus on the child. Learn what’s been going on and show you want to help.
  • Assure the child that bullying is not their fault.
  • Know that kids who are bullied may struggle with talking about it. Consider referring them to a school counselor, psychologist, or other mental health service.
  • Give options and advice about what to do. This may involve role-playing and thinking through how the child might react if the bullying occurs again.
  • Work together to resolve the situation and protect the bullied child. The child, parents, and school or organization may all have valuable input.
  • Be persistent. Bullying may not end overnight. Commit to making it stop and consistently support the bullied child.

What if our child is the perpetrator? Here are some ideas to help them stop such behavior:

  • Make sure the child knows what the problem behavior is. Young people who bully must learn their behavior is wrong and harms others.
  • Show kids that bullying is taken seriously. Calmly tell the child that bullying will not be tolerated. Model respectful behavior when addressing the problem.
  • Sometimes children bully to fit in. These kids can benefit from participating in positive activities. Involvement in sports and clubs can enable them to take leadership roles and make friends without feeling the need to bully.
  • Other times kids act out because something else—issues at home, abuse, stress—is going on in their lives. They also may have been bullied. These kids may be in need of additional support, such as mental health services.
  • Use consequences to teach. Consequences that involve learning or building empathy can help prevent future bullying. Such as involve the kid who bullied in making amends or repairing the situation. The goal is to help them see how their actions affect others. For example, the child can:
  1. Write a letter apologizing to the student who was bullied.
  2. Do a good deed for the person who was bullied or for others in your community.
  3. Clean up, repair, or pay for any property they damaged.
  4. After the bullying issue is resolved, continue finding ways to help the child who bullied to understand how what they do affects other people. For example, praise acts of kindness or talk about what it means to be a good friend.

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Our children, no matter their age, have their agency to choose how they will treat others. But, we can have a great influence on setting a foundation for their actions, which they can draw from.
Teach by example. How do we, as adults, treat others in the family and out of our home? Do we go out of our way to show a kindness even when it is not convenient? Do we try to find good in all? Do we put down others who have what we want or feel we deserve?
I saw a news video a few years back about a girl who had her friends help her trap and beat up another girl. The girl was seriously injured, the perpetrator had severe consequences with the law and it was all over the silliest and inconsequential thing. I was shocked at the action of the girl and her friends over such a trivial matter; however, the most appalling aspect was the mother’s reaction of the perpetrator as she spoke with reporters. She actually justified her daughter’s actions! Her daughter had done wrong on all accounts; there was not mistake or question about it. She had intentionally acted brutally, and now would have this hanging over her the rest of her life. Not just with law, but her view of herself.
You have to wonder if the girl had ever had consequences for her actions – ever. Had she been involved in making a meal or treats for neighbors that weren’t ‘popular’ in the neighborhood but needed care? Had she been taught the golden rule: Do Unto Others as YOU would have done to YOU? Did she know what that meant? I don’t know the answer to these questions, but her life is changed for the worst.
If you feel it is appropriate for your family, no matter the age of the members, please consider a family time or meeting when you could discuss this subject and role play, giving everyone a chance to be on both sides. Then let them express how they felt as the perpetrator and as the victim. Help them to understand how it is impossible to feel pure love and happiness when causing fear and sorrow.
Below are a few quotes you may want to print out, cut into strips and let each, in turn, read one and as a family discuss what it means.  Try to direct the discussion in a way to help them recognize how it makes them feel inside when they contemplate caring and easing burdens of another, versus destroying calm and peace for another person and them self.   Possibly end the time together by giving each the opportunity to write a note to a family member, fellow student or friend thanking them for friendship, or a kindness, and asking them to forgive them of an offense.

Keep up the great work you are doing in your home, it is the most important of all you do.  Every effort, even small that we do for good is noticed by Him, and not forgotten.
Zi Gong asked, saying, “Is there one word that may serve as a rule of practice for all one’s life?” The Master said, “Is not reciprocity such a word?” – Confucius[13][14]
“Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself.” – Confucius[15]
“If people regarded other people’s families in the same way that they regard their own, who then would incite their own family to attack that of another? For one would do for others as one would do for oneself.” – Mozi
“The sage has no interest of his own, but takes the interests of the people as his own. He is kind to the kind; he is also kind to the unkind: for Virtue is kind. He is faithful to the faithful; he is also faithful to the unfaithful: for Virtue is faithful.” –Laozi[16]
“Regard your neighbor’s gain as your own gain, and your neighbor’s loss as your own loss.” –Laozi[17]
Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.—Udanavarga 5
Beware lest ye harm any soul, or make any heart to sorrow; lest ye wound any man with your words, be he known to you or a stranger, be he friend or foe. —`Abdu’l-Bahá[47]
That which is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow. That is the whole Torah; the rest is the explanation; go and learn.” —Talmud, Shabbat 31a
And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. Luke 6:31
If the entire “Dharma” (spiritual and moral laws) can be said in a few words, then it is – that which is unfavorable to us, do not do that to others. (Padmapuraana, shrushti 19/357-358)
A Bedouin came to the prophet, grabbed the stirrup of his camel and said: O the messenger of God! Teach me something to go to heaven with it. Prophet said: “As you would have people do to you, do to them; and what you dislike to be done to you, don’t do to them. Now let the stirrup go! [This maxim is enough for you; go and act in accordance with it!]” —Kitab al-Kafi, vol. 2, p. 146
“None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself.” —An-Nawawi’s Forty Hadith 13 (p. 56)[61]
The Jewish sage and martyr Rabbi Akiba, following Hillel the Elder (c.110 BC, died 10 AD[66]), had singled out the Golden Rule (Leviticus 19:18) as a basic principle of the Torah meaning, that the principle of love must have its foundation in Genesis verse 1, which teaches that all men are the offspring of Adam who was made in the image of God (Sifra, Ḳedoshim, iv.; Yer. Ned. ix. 41c; Genesis Rabba 24).[67] According to Jewish rabbinic literature, the first man Adam represents the unity of mankind. This is echoed in the modern preamble of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. And it is also taught, that Adam is last in order according to the evolutionary character of God’s creation:[67] “Why was only a single specimen of man created first?[67] To teach us that he who destroys a single soul destroys a whole world and that he who saves a single soul saves a whole world;[67] furthermore, so no race or class may claim a nobler ancestry, saying, ‘Our father was born first’; and, finally, to give testimony to the greatness of the Lord, who caused the wonderful diversity of mankind to emanate from one type.[67   
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