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 Do you have difficult times? Have you been in situations when you feel like you are smothering, or that you can hardly breathe? When you want to feel cold, or hot, or even pain because numbness has taken over? If we live long enough, that IS an experience in life.

  How do we get through and move on through those times? What does it take? Can we prepare for trials and burdens? I love the parable of the Ten Virgins in the book of Matthew in the New Testament (King James Version Matthew 25). The more I live and experience, the more I draw from that allegory; to teach me and guide me. This particular story has five women who are foolish, and five who are wise, all waiting for the bridegroom to pass by so they can be a part of the much anticipated celebration. 

Our narrative took place a very long time ago when oil was placed in a little bowl, or a small lamp to provide the way for people to carry light with them where ever they went. To begin, oil was extracted from olives, which were first cleaned from dirt and their bitterness. Next, olives were crushed to extract their oil to be used for light. A wick was made from the stem of a rush plant or flax fibers. The wick was placed in the bowl to draw the oil from the vessel, providing light to shine -to see, read and work when the dark came. When the oil is gone, it has to be replaced, or the the wick could not feed the light source, continuing to provide illumination.

In our story, the women must have laughed, talked and exchanged dreams of what it would be like at this fabulous, incredible event. The hour grew late and their eyes became tired until all fell asleep. Suddenly, without warning the eagerly awaited group came by to take them along.  The hour had grown so unexpectedly later than any had planned and half were without any light. The foolish five whose lamps were empty asked the other five to share, as they had not thought to bring any extra along! They could not see their way in the dark and since the lamps were so small they simply could not provide enough light for more than one person to see safely along the still far distance journey the group had to travel.

The five foolish women desperately pleaded and implored the other five to share. I imagine the five wise women being torn to stay as the group traveled by, wanting to help their friends. Possibly even being distraught themselves and weeping with them as they wanted to share, but not being able to. It was simply impossible. There was absolutely nothing they could do, but to hold them, love them, say a prayer with them and cry bitter tears as they walked away to join the group leaving to the grand celebration. Why could they not share?  In our society today it is almost unfathomable that things cannot be distributed, combined or fixed.

Remember this is an allegory, a teaching tool for us today. The lamp is a vessel. Our body is a vessel. The oil is poured into the lamp drop by drop. Our faith, good works, testimony of God, Christ, purity, good works, charity, and all that is righteous and Godly are added daily, drop by drop. The wick can only burn what we have stored in our lamp. Let’s back up a bit. Evidently five of the women just assumed that they would be included in the festivities. They could go about their daily life’s nonchalantly doing as they wished, and their own priorities taking precedence —- always. Their time, their priorities above God’s will. Their needs and desires above others. So when the critical moment came, the five who had not given God their heart, might mind and soul, had nothing to draw from. They had to wander in the dark, making their journey much more difficult and dangerous; as well as missing the grand party and glorious blessings. What had the five done to fill their vessel with oil, as well as to have extra in reserve for times of hardship and trial, particularly those that may come unexpectedly, as we all have? They did as we all are told to do: 

  • Daily ponder the holy scriptures
  • Daily have family prayer
  • Morning and night have meaningful personal prayer
  • Sincerely ask God what He would have us do
  • Find out His will for us – not our will (His way is perfect) and DO it
  • Control our bodies – stay pure in appetite and in morals
  • Do kind deeds OFTEN
  • Be moral in thoughts and actions
  • Attend church meetings
  • The list goes on, but as we listen to the Holy Spirit to know what we should do,and act on those impressions, our lamp overfills with oil

Why daily?  These ancient lamps only held enough oil to last for about two hours. This parable is telling us that we must act on these daily to keep our oil drops flowing for our own good. It is by these simple daily acts, daily, drop by drop that we have light for today, and to build a reserve for unexpected ordeals and tribulations. We all have seemingly impossible situations and hardships that we feel we cannot endure. And yet, there is our Savior, and God, we can always turn to. We are never, ever too far gone, or have done too much to ask for help from our ever loving Heavenly Father. He can reach anywhere, anytime, if we will just begin to fill our lamp, drop by drop by drop. We will feel His love and light. By doing this, we can be filled with love, pure joy, happiness and peace – that is what this life experience is all about.

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015

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  • Diane Roark says:


    I love this story too in Matthew. When we sit idol and do nothing instead of staying prepare for everything, we miss out on blessings from God. If we continue to build our relationship with God by doing the list of things that you included in your posts, we will always be ready to meet God no matter when that times comes.
    Many blessings,
    Diane Roark

  • Beautiful, Carrie. I have been in church since infancy, but was never told the story of the lamps in this way. So very meaningful. I’m going to print it out (just for my personal use, and with your copyright on it) and read it daily, if that is OK with you. There’s too much here to absorb in one reading. Thank you.

  • Jess says:

    As always, your posts are SO inspirational! I just love reading them and are so glad you share them with me each week! 🙂

    Thanks for joining the Link Up this week!

  • Heaven says:

    Thank you for finally telling this story in a way I can understand fully! Just wonderful. 🙂

  • Christen says:


    I enjoyed this post and will be featuring it this week on Happy and Blessed Home’s Family Fun Friday. 🙂

  • Sherry says:

    A great post. I enjoyed reading it. Thanks for linking up with us at Funtastic Friday. Hope to see you again this week.

  • Rosie Massman says:

    Thank you, Carrie… You are truly a blessing in my life. Keep up ALL your good work. Hugs to you, my dear. 🙂

  • I love this parable. I wrote about it from the perspective of military life (what does an Army wife and 10 virgins have in common). It is such a good reminder to always be alert and ready waiting in anticipation of our savior. Thanks for your beautiful words. #FellowshipFridays.

  • June says:

    A good reminder, Carrie, to be ready and how to be ready, Have a blessed week!

  • Jennifer says:

    Thank you for leading us through a pondering of this parable. I particularly appreciated your summary statement towards the end: “It is by these sim­ple daily acts, daily, drop by drop that we have light for today, and to build a reserve for unex­pected ordeals and tribu­la­tions.” There’s such truth in this! May we each be faithful to build up our oil reserves. Thank you for linking with us at Grace & Truth!

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