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story of Squanto's life and how he helped the pilgrims

Thanksgiving and Squanto, A True Hero

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story of Squanto's life and how he helped the pilgrims

A true story of how turning hard experiences into positive ways to help others. Trusting God and His ways in our life.

Thanksgiving and Squanto, A True Hero

Do you know the story of Thanksgiving and Squanto, A True Hero?

The story of the pilgrims is familiar, remarkable and exemplary; however, the story of Squanto completely intrigues me.

Granted as you investigate, you will find many variations of the story, but here I have done my best to bring you the most common and universal one that has been researched best possibly since it happened so long ago. 

It a story of miracles, forgiveness, love, surviving with  dignity and seeing God’s hand in ways never imagined.

You will never think of Thanksgiving the same after reading this amazing life of Squanto.

To easily teach your family his story I have a Family Time-Family Home Evening (FHE) Lesson all about Squanto HERE


SQUANTO’S STORY

Squanto, or his Indian name, Tisquantum, was a Patuxet, which was a band of the Wampanoag tribe.

Traders were known to the Indians as they came from far away Europe, including, of course, England. One day in 1614, a Captain Hunter directed his ship along the coast of what we now call Massachusetts to trade with the Indians. Squanto and some friends went to see the Captain, as he had traded with them before. Rather than trade with the boys, Captain Hunter and his men hit the young men over the head. The boys were immediately transformed into his captives.

Can you imagine the terror these Indian boys felt as they regained consciousness in a dark, stuffy, rolling vessel? The food was putrid; rats were scampering about; the water was rancid; not to mention the sheer brutal treatment as a young Indian captive. After what would have been several months, the ship stopped in a land the youth had never imagined even existed: Malaga, Spain.

The Indians were herded off the ship and into the sunlight. The light stung their eyes and drove an intense pain right to their brain after spending several months in the dark hull of the ship. Horror, dread, and shock were likely but a few of the emotions these boys felt as they were lined up to be sold as slaves.


Here is one account of Squanto’s kidnapping:

When Friars, or Monks as they are also referred to in many historical accounts, in Malaga discovered that Squanto and others had been kidnapped and were being sold as slaves, immediately took custody of as many of them as they could.  

The Monks took them to the Catherdral where they were taught the Christian faith, the Spainish language and the culture of Spain. 

Many did not believe in slavery or what was happening all over the world  and did not agree at all; knowing it was inhumane, cruel and evil .  In fact, Sir Ferdinando Gorges states, the Friars (Monks) were “so disappointed this unworthy fellow of the hopes of gain he conceived to make by this new and devilish project.”

Although living with the Monks was unfortunate, in the circumstances that took him there in the first place, he must have realized  how different his life could have been, had someone else purchased him that day at the auction.

Naturally he missed his home, his family, his people, and his land.  The Monks, understanding this, managed to arrange for Squanto to travel to England from Spain, in hopes of finding a ship. It must be noted that the odds of Squanto actually traveling back to the American continent were stacked high against him.

It is unfortunate that we do not have the history of how Squanto traveled from Spain to England. Did he have a map? Did he travel with a caravan?

The speech he had learned as a baby was now replaced with the Spanish dialect of the monks.

As he traveled, he likely did not understand English, which would be a major detriment once he entered the country.

 

Squanto somehow came to reside as a stable boy for a family in London, England,whose name was Slaney. He prayed fervently every single day to someday return home to his family, to hug and kiss his parents, his siblings, his friends. The longing for this reuniting must have been agonizing.

Finally, a trading ship was scheduled to sail to the coast of North America. It was around 1618, and another five years had passed while he was in England and learning the English culture and language. Because of his linguistic capabilities, he became the translator on the ship in trade of passage.

Another Popular Account of the kidnapping:

After landing in Spain, Squanto was taken by a ship captain to London, then to Newfoundland, then back to England after a few years to be an interpreter.   While working as as an interpreter he was on a ship that sailed back to New England and to his homeland. 

Back to our story:

Any travel by ship back then would have been rigorous and long.

It was now 1619 when the ship landed and, by providence, it stopped on the coast of Massachusetts. He must have bolted off the vessel and ran as swiftly as he could to the home of his boyhood. I’m sure tears of joy were streaming down his face as he made his way to the village.

Horrified, he saw the place was abandoned. There was no one there, not even a dog to bark and announce his arrival.

 



Traveling on, he found Indians in a neighboring tribe who told him the devastating news that a disease had struck and everyone had died. There was not a soul left of his family or his friends.

The heartbreak and sadness, even depression hung around him, weighing  like the smoke of the continual camp fire.

He had yearned for this moment: to see his beloved people for over ten years, and now it was never to be.

Squanto went to the woods to live by himself, in self-designated seclusion.

He was no longer an Indian with the ways of the tribes. 

He was not an Englishman or a stable boy.

He was not an interpreter to merchants, sailors or those who needed his language skills. 

His family and tribe were gone.

He found himself as a lone man without family or country; truly a stranger in a strange land, if there ever was one.

Meanwhile, in 1620, a little band of Pilgrims suffered great persecution from their own countrymen and government.  They decided to sacrifice all for the opportunity to worship God freely, and in their own way. Crossing the great Atlantic in a relatively small boat for a long ocean voyage, and put complete trust in God and His purpose for them.

Landing at Plymouth, they anticipated and dreamed of a life of freedom to worship as Christians, along and with enough prosperity to raise their families.

The first year for the small band was nightmarish. Disaster struck the settlement, and fifty percent of their population died. No one could have blamed them had any questioned God’s purpose in all that had happened. Their disastrous situation was catastrophic, leaving the Pilgrims barely able to see any light or prospects in the situation; only more death and starvation.

An Indian from a neighboring tribe tried to communicate with the Pilgrims, to help them; but to no avail. He traveled to find Squanto, knowing he had lived with the white man and could communicate with these people who were obviously suffering.

Squanto sympathized with the news of the strangers, ignored his own pain and sorrowful circumstance and walked to the village.  As he approached he spoke to them in English. Can you imagine the shock of the Pilgrims? An Indian brave speaking the King’s English in 1621!

Ironically, the Pilgrims had settled and made their homes on the very spot that Squanto’s parents, friends and family had lived.

See, the village that had been abandoned, providing the Pilgrims a much needed place of shelter.

Squanto not only taught them, but was such a good and trusted friend, that he was adopted by this group of people as ‘one of them’! A place, friends, FAMILY!

 

 



Squanto knew this land well as he had worked alongside his parents; now he could teach the Pilgrims how to plant corn with fish as a fertilizer, how to embed a gourd around the cornstalk to help it grow and other ways to live on the land.

Not only that, but he taught them to fish, to get eels out of the muddy streams, and to find lobsters.

Because Squanto  had been in the places he had, learned the language to communicate, had the vast resource of knowledge to communicate AND chose to look to God for His will and purpose in his life, Squanto was prepared and able to be a savior to this very special group.

Why is that important?

Because this little band of struggling Pilgrims would be a seed, the beginning and foundation for the United States of America!

Squanto opened relations and trade with various Indian tribes and the settlers which was critical for survival.

In fact, Plymouth Governor William Bradford was moved to declare him a “spetiall (special) instrument sent of God for [their] good”.

We all have struggles, trials and circumstances that are so foreign and even incomprehensible at times that we naturally question why we must endure these incredible hardships.

We may even wonder if God is there, knows us, and has a plan that is for our good?

I know that if we pray, stay close to Him and remember that He loves each one individually, because we are His son or daughter, then we can begin to realize that His love is unfathomable and enduring.

Our Father in Heaven has not sent us here to fail, but to overcome the things of the world that do not matter, to be triumphant in overcoming our own weaknesses, to be steadfast in persevering through difficulties and to endure well to the end by never losing faith in Him, His son Jesus Christ, or our ability to love as He loves us.

We may not have the spectacular events of Squanto, but be assured, and do not doubt that God has a plan for you!

His loving and kind eye is always on you.

His love is continually there to surround you.

His ways are not always going to mirror ours, but they are perfect. His hand is outstretched continually, never failing to lead you along on correct paths.

As we celebrate this Thanksgiving season, let us count our blessings one by one. It is amazing what the Lord is doing to help us be more like Him. Let us have courage and determination to be victorious while on our journey here in this life, despite challenges that may be placed in our way. For this I pray, for each and every one. Happy Thanksgiving.

 

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2014 (edited by Dallin Groneman 2016 – THANK YOU son!!!)

Recognize a blessing and Be a Blessing today  




Kids making posters

Posters For Local Assisted Living Or Care Center

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Kids making posters

Kids of all ages can easily make general or themed posters or decorations for your local Assisted Living or Care Center

Posters For Local Assisted Living Or Care Center

If we teach our family to be kind and to serve, it is one of the most important attributes we can give to them. 

It’s an investment of time and energy that’s never a waste, or unappreciated, even if things do not always go perfectly during the process. 

However, if we are persistent, we will see amazing results in how our family reaches out to each other with kindness.

 So how can we help them learn to  serve with all the demands on our busy schedules?

This project is super easy, quick to prepare and inexpensive.

And the best part is besides our family doing a worthwhile activity, those who benefit from our kind service with will appreciate our time and effort.

Another huge plus, this can be done by ALL AGES!!! 

 

PURPOSE: Did you know that many Care Centers and Assisted Living facilities do not have the funds for every day and holiday decorations? 

In fact, some who live there may not even have loved ones near by to visit, or bring them a little something to spruce up their room, or the central area where they gather to eat and visit.

By a simple act of making a general or themed decoration, it shows a huge amount of kindness, as well as teaching our family to look beyond them self and to others.

And don’t worry about how crafty you are, or aren’t, the residents will be thrilled with any type of decoration that you come up with.  

I have younger grand-kids right now; up to eight years old,  and this is how they can be creative, and it’s perfect!

It’s so simple!

Supplies-

poster board, markers, crayons and foam shapes.  You can certainly do anything your heart desires from painting simple foam table decorations to crafting extravagantly; all depending on your ability and the ages of course.  Everything will be appreciated!

Be sure to explain who the posters are for and why they were making them, then let the fun begin!!!

Working on general themed posters to take to the local Assisted Living/Care Center

Kids making posters

Kids of all ages can easily make general or themed posters or decorations for your local Assisted Living or Care Center

Kids making posters

Kids of all ages can easily make general or themed posters or decorations for your local Assisted Living or Care Center

 

Here are the themed posters we did for Halloween – 

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

For this project, we had five posters to deliver when the kiddos were finished. 

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

Due to schedules and school, only one of the grand kids could help deliver the posters on behalf of our family.

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

Meeting many of the residents was the highlight!  They were finishing a program when we arrived, so this little cutie had the opportunity to meet some who lived at this particular care center.

After the shyness wore off, she visited and had a good time.

Those there, expressed their gratitude and happiness at having others care enough to take the time to make decorations for them and bring some ‘holiday fun’ to their doors.  They hoped for ‘every-day’ decorations too:) (Note: There was only one little decorated bowl in the entire place that my daughter and I could see, so this is a need everywhere, if you  are interested in this type of service, for any month of the year!)

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2017, 2018

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today

Hop Scotch

How To Play Old Fashioned Hop Scotch

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Hop Scotch

Hop Scotch

 

Do you know How To Play Old Fashioned Hop Scotch?  

I’ll bet your parents and grandparents did, but have you played it lately?

You could ask them teach you, OR learn from this post and play a game or two.

Hop Scotch has been a favortie game for generations all around the world and popular because it’s perfect for all skill levels and ages.  

WHY is it good for everyone?

Because in the game of Hop Scotch you learn and practice skills such as: how to hop, skip, toss, accuracy, and –  it is just plain fun!  

Here’s a bit of trivia before I go so that you can get outside and play Hop Scotch:  Did you know this game has been around for hundreds of years?  And reportedly even for thousands of years going back to Roman soldiers training for battle! Well, if they could play it so can we!!!

How to Play Hop Scotch

Supplies – 

CHALK

TAW  or GAME MARKERS

 

To Prepare:

1- There are so many ways to draw a Hop Scotch grid, this is the way we do ours, but HERE is a site for other options. Also, this is a book you can order of ways it is played around the world HERE

2- Draw your choice of grid with chalk on the driveway OR you can use masking tape on the carpet inside when the weather is inclement.

Make sure the squares are large enough to fit the foot easily into

3- Each player will need a ‘Marker’ which can be a rock, coin, ‘Ta’, anything.

 

To Start:

1- First player will toss their marker into the first square (the square with the #1 drawn in it) without landing on the border or bounding out.

If the marker does not land in the right square, it is the next players turn.  Continue if you are playing alone.

Hop Scotch

 

2- Hop through the squares on ONE foot SKIPPING the square your marker is in going up the Hop Scotch grid. Only one foot can be on the ground at one time unless two squares are together then both feet hit the ground at the same time.

3- If you step outside the lines, hop on the wrong square or step on the line you lose your turn.

4- Turn at the end of the grid to face the opposite direction so you can go back down the grid and WITHOUT STEPPING outside the lines, squares or on the lines.

Hop Scotch1

 

5- Hop back down the grid in reverse order in the same fashion. 

6- When you get to the square JUST BEFORE THE ONE with your marker, bend down, standing on ONE FOOT, lean down and pick up the marker.

7- Skip over that square and finish the grid.

8- Repeat this process, tossing the marker to the next square.  For example, this time the marker would be thrown into the #2 square.

9- If a mistake is made by tossing the marker into the wrong square, onto a line, outside the grid.  Or if when hopping down the grid a player steps on the line, outside the grid, puts a foot down when they shouldn’t, steps in a box they shouldn’t, etc, it is the next player’s turn and so forth.

10- The first player to toss their marker into all the squares, completing the hop scotch grid successfully wins!

If you want to play this FUN game indoors on a rainy day, I found some GREAT options for you to consider: *THIS  and

*THIS one grab these Bean Bags and

THIS are some great options for hours of entertainment and exercise inside!  

*The first TWO can be used outside for easy set up and take down anywhere, camping, picnic, family reunion, wherever!

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015, 2018

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

 

Game Of Kick The Can

Old Fashioned Game of Kick The Can

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Old Fashioned Game of Kick The Can

Get out and play a game of Kick The Can

Do you ever just want to kick something and get away with it?  Well, you CAN! Come play Old Fashioned Game of Kick The Can

This game goes way back and is a favorite for all ages to play. 

Leave the technology gaming inside and get everyone outside for this fun variation of Hide And Seek.  Kick The Can has been played for generations.

It’s a favorite because it’s a game of skill, stealthiness, some luck and all-around entertaining. 

Get everyone out and play in the day OR night, it’s all GREAT!

Old Fashioned Game of Kick The Can

Kick The can




How to play Kick The Can

To Prepare:

1- You need a bucket or can, one that is able to take a good kicking

2- There needs to be at least 3 kids, the more the better.

3- Designate a ‘JAIL’ area within site of the can.

 

To Start:

1- An ‘It’ is chosen by counting off, or another method.

2- ‘It’ covers his/her eyes and counts OUT LOUD giving enough time for all players to hide.  For children it won’t take as much time as for teens and adults.

3- While the counting is going on the players hide.

4- When the counting STOPS the players try to make their way in and KICK THE CAN without being tagged.  If tagged they are sent to ‘JAIL’

5- If another player KICKS THE CAN all players in JAIL are set free.

6- The game continues until all the players are captured.

Old Fashioned Game of Kick The Can A  new ‘IT’ is chosen and the game continues as long as players want to keep it going. 

GREAT for kids, teens and adults!

Old Fashioned Game of Kick The Can

 

Old Fashioned Game of Kick The Can

Kick The can

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

 




Ways to help a person or family when tragedy, illness or hardship strikes their home. What to say, not to say, what to do and more

Helping A Sick Friend and Comforting In Heartbreak

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ways to help a person or family when tragedy, illness or hardship strikes their home. What to say, not to say, what to do and more

What do I say, or do when I want to help and give service?

Helping A Sick Friend and Comforting In Heartbreak

Have you ever been sick, or caring for someone and needed some some extra help? 

Or had someone close to you, who you knew could use a lending hand in some way, but you wondered what to do that would be comforting and useful?

Helping A Sick Friend and Comforting In Heartbreak is one of the most thoughtful and rewarding things we can do. 

However, too often we shy away and not do anything, because we may not know what to say, or what to do, or how to best give service.

So that we can bring relief to the weary who are physically drained from caring for their family and loved ones; and comfort those who’s heart is breaking from any type of tragic and adverse situation, I have put together some resources to guide us in being a true comfort, such as:

  • How can you help a friend who is overcoming a loss from suicide, infant death, pet loss, or any other situation of deep mourning. 
  • What do we say, or not say?
  • How can we actually help without saying the cliche: “Let me know what I can do”?  and then do nothing….
  • What can we do to show we care that is meaningful and helpful? 

As you read on, you will find there are several excellent ideas here; however, the secret is to act and reach out.  They will greatly appreciate your kindness and show of support, in often unspoken words. Just do the best you can and serve.

 

Mourn with those that mourn

Have you ever experienced a trial or hardship that was extremely difficult, though maybe not as recognized as a disease or accident?  I think we all have, and during those times, we still need an encouraging word of reassurance and friendship.

During a particularly difficult time, Natalie delivered this card to me shown just below, and it filled the heart with joy.   

To find beautiful cards like this, Natalie’s link is HERE 

You can also download a free THINKING OF YOU CARD  here

Being there to lift another’s burden by simply saying you are there as a friend is priceless. Remember, a ‘real’ card is never out of style. 

 

You will find many more ideas of how you can help in useful and creative ways, including a SUNSHINE GIFT for all ages at the end of this post.

Ways to help a person or family when tragedy, illness or hardship strikes their home. What to say, not to say, what to do and more

What do I say, or do when I want to help and give service?

 

In distressing circumstances what do you say– or not say?  

There are numerous conditions under which a person or a family could use help.

  • Severe handicap
  • Mental Illness
  • A loved one chose suicide
  • A death, whether old, young or newborn
  • Terminal illness
  • Hospitalization
  • Surgery
  • New baby (adopted and foster are just as much of an adjustment)
  • Job loss – long term, or repeated can be very disheartening

 

1- Now that we identified WHEN to help –

2- WHAT can we do if it’s not obvious?

3- Look hard and pray about HOW to help.  Here’s an example from my own experience.

Some years back, a family in our neighborhood had a very young son who was diagnosed with cancer. Needless to say, it was a scary and trying time for also their extended family and those of us in the neighborhood who knew and cared about them.

I wanted to somehow be a benefit, but I wasn’t sure what to do, so I included it in my prayers that I’d know how to help.

After prying a little one day, I found out that the mom did not have the extra means to buy food from the cafeteria while she was at hospital; which was daily while her young son had treatments.

That was my answer!

I packed a sturdy durable bag that closed tight with food that could be warmed in the microwave, or eaten as it was, but none that required refrigeration.

Mainly high protein foods and a few treats.   

Another time this same mom asked me to watch her other children because she had to take her son to his doctors appointment. While she was gone, I arranged with other women in our church to come in for a cleaning blitz who had wanted to help, but didn’t know what they could do.

While we cleaned, older kids of the women who had come to help clean, did crafts with the kids I was in charge of for the mom at the hospital, making them feel special and keeping them entertained.  This was a great gift and service to them, as their life now had to often revolve around all the hospital visits and that very sensitive situation of their brother being ill.

It’s a cherished memory of how to involve others.




What if I SAY or DO the wrong thing? 

How do I know THE BEST way to serve them?

It’s unfortunate, but a part of life that illness, tragedy or hardship will come to one of our loved ones,  a friend, or a neighbor at some time. 

And then –

  • What do we say?
  • What do we do?
  • How can we help?
  • What’s the best approach?
  • What about when the person or family has lost a loved one to suicide?

I have some tips and suggestions so that you will ALWAYS know how, when and the best ways to be of service and comfort.  Remember!  Just Do SOMETHING with the best intention of loving them and it will be alright.

 

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This was a situation for one of my dear neighbors and I didn’t know what to say, or what to do myself as I hadn’t encountered this situation before. So I researched a bit and I’m sharing with you the information I found.

Heartbreaking position for those grieving with the loss of a loved one to suicide

To read the helpful tips and ideas of what to do, click GRIEVING THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE

 

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WHAT DO YOU SAY WHEN A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER LOSES A BABY?

This is another delicate issue and so tender for everyone involved.  

I have tried to gather information for us so we can be the most helpful in this situation. 

Click here on  What Do You Say When A Friend Or Family Member Loses A Baby?

 

 

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Losing A Pet can be as devastating as losing a family member to those who love and care for their pets.

I have a tips and ideas you will find helpful here in How To Comfort When There Is A Pet-loss

 

 

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Treat them the same

It’s important to remember and treat the person, or the family as you always did.  This new diagnosis, or difficulty they are having isn’t ‘them’.  It isn’t a way to identify them, or take over their personality, it’s just the new situation or ‘normal’ for the time being.  Remembering that will help you treat them the same as you always did, and it won’t be as awkward with the new circumstances because it helps them feel ‘in control’ and somewhat their usual self.

 

Try to do something ‘normal’, out of the ordinary and FUN

For example

The picture of the baby at the top of the post is one of my grand daughters.  Right after being born, she was in the NICU also known as the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit.

Her brother had been in the hospital for several days which was terrifying.

Stan, my husband, spent much of his time after work at the hospital with the sick grandchildren.

But when he was home, he took the other kids to Sam’s Club (their favorite) for lunch, then to the store to let them pick out their own match-box car.

When they came back to the house,  I gave each of them a few washable markers and their own empty toilet paper roll to make a car ‘power station’. They had a blast and it filled the time with creativity and imagination.

It doesn’t have to be expensive, just out of the ordinary and something THEY will enjoy.





 

Another day does begin

I had some of the grand kids at my house, giving their mom a chance to recuperate with the sick baby.

I put on the musical ‘Bye Bye Birdie’, the one with Ann Margaret. They had the best time watching something they had never seen, and dancing with Birdie as the whole town swooned and fainted – they thought that was pretty funny; acting right along and falling to the ground with the character’s in the movie, as Birdie played his guitar.

Get them up and MOVING

Laughter is a wonderful release from the stress for ALL ages.
kids 1
Try to provide as much normality as possible in their day by keeping them busy, as appropriate of course.

This provides a way for even little ones to feel somewhat in control, despite the drastic changed schedules and even living circumstances. 

‘Helping’ Uncle Dallin clean.kids 2

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Here is my son, daughter-in-law and grand daughter getting ready to come home from the hospital.

Our little NICU grandbaby was finally allowed to come home!baby 8After taking baby CPR classes at the hospital, learning how to run the oxygen machine, classes on how to use monitoring and other devices to help our little grand daughter stay alive, our son Derek remarked:

“Who said kids don’t come with instructions.”

Always try to keep a sense of humor, it goes a LONG way in putting these stressful situations in perspective and dealing with them in a healthy manner.

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It seems if we live long enough we will have family and friends who will face challenges of some sort that will require help.

I have complied a little list of ideas that might be useful if you are ever in the situation of wondering how to help and be most useful:

  • Keep in mind that when a person, or family are in a crisis, they may have much different priorities then before. Be sensitive to their ‘new situation’ and that ‘normal’ things may not be a current concern.  Just understand and be supportive.
  • LISTEN, do not judge or give unwanted advice. Sometimes the other person simply wants to talk and get it out in the open.  Realize it may not be how they really feel; actually, it probably isn’t. Be kind about not repeating or passing on anything that is best kept between trusted friends. Venting is part of grieving.
  • Offer to clean the house or gift a professional house cleaning service.  Do not just offer, be proactive and DO something. 
  • Sometimes when asking what you can do to help is almost more stressful because the person/family may not be able to process everything that does need to be done, such as  the real necessities. You could ask about arranging to pick up other children for school, sports, scouts, etc. That would be a great relief to the parents and family.
  •  It is critical that the family members have a way to recharge and have the energy to face the ordeal at hand. By arranging for the parents/care giver to have the opportunity to exercise, get sleep, have meals brought in and babysitting the other children would be such a relief.
  • Offering to stay with a child or family member for a few hours at the hospital to give the adult(s) time to leave for a bit, would allow them to take a moment for them self, while knowing that someone was there and their loved one wasn’t alone.  
  • A SunShine Gift or Basket would be perfect, click HERE

SunShine Gifts and Baskets

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 




 

More Suggestions on how to give comfort and relief:

  • A gift certificate for a massage, a facial, a haircut, a manicure, a pedicure, a movie, favorite meal, etc., would be so appreciated for them to use while a trusted friend or family member sat with the sick/hospitalized patient.
  • Provide rides to and from school,  or activities for other family members. Also, rides to the hospital so the children can visit the parent(s).
  • A personal planner to keep track of all the details if this is an extended situation.  THIS ONE would be a great one. 
  • Take, or send, a care package to the sick patient. Part of this could also be gift cards to local restaurants or even a way to purchase food at the hospital for the parents/adults.
  • If it is holiday time, offer to shop for them, or even arrange a ‘Secret Santa’ for the family to take the pressure off them financially, as well as the overwhelming time it can be.
  • A journal is incredibly healing.  HERE is a terrific choice. 
  • And ONE for kids
  • If it is another child’s birthday time, offering to hold the party would be a tremendous burden eased for the parent(s) so the child does not feel left out or ‘on-the-back-burner’ so to speak.
  • Grocery shop for family. If the funds are tight for them, you might want to purchase the necessities or even see if neighbors want to go in with you.
  •  Do, or arrange for, housecleaning or yard work to be done.  That’s a HUGE help.
  • If they have pets, help or provide a source to feed and walk them.
  • Take siblings out for a fun activity or babysit them.
  • If you know them well, books and CD’s that will inspire and make them laugh would be a great choice.
  • Provide THANK YOU cards and stamps for them to send out. THESE would be a fabulous choice.
  • If it is overwhelming to keep family and friends up to date of the patients treatment and circumstance. You could offer to keep up a blog or even Facebook page for them; with their approval of EVERY SINGLE post/entry
  • Help the other family members feel useful. It empowers them and takes their mind off the situation at hand.
  • A small decorated vase with a narrow opening is a great idea to take to your friends or neighbors if you are on a budget. If taking flowers, ask to be sure if they are allergic to any one type of flower.
  • Balloons are always fun.  
  • ***If you are taking flowers or balloons into a hospital check with the staff first o make sure it’s alright with the hospital policy and into the area you want to take them.

If you are looking for ideas on taking in a meal, I have GREAT information, lots of useful tips and recipes at: 

What You Need To Know About Taking In A Meal They Will Want To Eat

I hope this post has given you tools and resources to empower you, so that you feel comfortable reaching out to anyone in need; whether you barely know them, or they are close family or a dear friend. 

We all have ordeals to go through some time in life – that’s just the way it is. 

Having a person, an angel, who cares enough about us, our comfort, our family, to ACT and DO something selfless, means more than words can express.

Copyright A Mother’s Shadow, 2014, 2018

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.




What You Need To Know About Taking In A Meal They Will Want To Eat

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Taking in a Meal to a neighbor or family

What food to make and tips to make it easier on you and the person you are helping

 Have you been asked, or even offered to take in a meal to someone?

I’ve got you covered here in  What You Need To Know About Taking In A Meal that They Will Want To Eat, and I can help you with this situation.

Even though you want to do this act of kindness, does the thought of taking in a meal, send panic running (or galloping) through your body?

Or do you get cold sweats worrying about what to take that they would want to eat?

And how in the world do you approach them in the first place?

Don’t worry, I’ve brought together valuable information just for you!

  • Everything from how to comfortably ask the day and time for bringing in the meal; making it convenient for all involved.
  • What type of food they would actually want to eat while keeping you in control of what the meal is, so you can stay in your budget.
  •  Ideas for you to know how to be approachable when wanting to help, so it’s not awkward for anyone.

 

So, if you’re looking for tips on taking in food when there is a new baby,  someone had surgery, there’s an illness in the family, unfortunately a death – or just because you know it would cheer them up—

I’ve got What You Need To Know About Taking In A Meal They Will Want To Eat, along with recipes that are easy and varied for you to choose from.

These handy tips will  make your meal not only one that is enjoyed, but remembered as thoughtful and extremely appreciated.  




What You Need To Know About Taking In A Meal they Will want to eat

A meal is always welcome and a VERY thoughtful gesture of friendship and kindness.

However, it can be a scary idea to think about feeding other people,  or their kids; especially if you don’t know them very well.

So, when do you take in a meal? What are the circumstances that says: FEED US PLEASE

Then, what do you say when contacting them about taking in a meal? 

Most importantly, how do you find out what they like, so they will enjoy it, meaning your time and resources are useful and not wasted?

I have it all covered, so you don’t need to worry.  

 

When should you take In A Meal?

There are so many opportunities, but here are the most common:

  • A new baby.
  • Someone is ill or had surgery.
  • There has been a death in the family.
  • A job loss.
  • They are getting ready to move and everything is packed away (*see special moving tips below in this post)
  • Moving in (*see moving tips, again below in this post)
  • You know they are struggling with something personal, a family member’s situation, or outside circumstances that are challenging.  A meal can make the world seem gentler and a more compassionate place to be.
  • A traumatic event of any type. I have a post you might like How Can I Help When Someone Is Sick And Show I Care?
  • Anytime you want to help out, be kind, and especially when you feel impressed to, that is the perfect reason to take in a meal.

 

The Appreciation Comes From The Details

Let’s be real, we all say ‘thank you’ to a meal and that we ‘like it’.

However, if we ask a few questions, we are going to be HERO’s as well as taking in a meal that will be REALLY enjoyed and EATEN.

Details such as:

  • Use disposable pans, bags and dishes to deliver the food in. I like to prepare as many of the items I am taking  in the same type of pan if possible. The reason for this, is that I only have to have one to purchase and store one type; saving money and space.  Something like THIS would be good for everything from salads, to jello, to rolls to a main dish. You could  use two of these pans  for the main dish if you are taking the meal to a large family.

 

       Using something disposable avoids situations such as: whose bowl does this belong to?                Which unmarked pan does the young boy at the door want returned while his mother                  waits outside, not wanting to ‘be a bother’, as you are frantically trying to find the right lid          to ‘her pan’ in the myriad of  dishes stacked on the kitchen counter….which makes you                want to scream/cry/wish you had ordered out pizza that night.  Disposable dishes all the            way baby. They make everyone happy!

       Or there’s the well-meaning neighbor stopping by to collect their dishes – when you’re not           feeling well as you recover, or finally just got the newborn to sleep… gggrrrr….So if that’s             you, neighbor….please do a favor and call ahead:) Actually, please just use disposable.

 

  • Ask if anyone in the family has food allergies, or if there is anything they simply will not eat.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
  • Of course you, kind person, need to stay in your budget and fix a meal that you are comfortable making.  However, if you take in something they cannot, or simply will not eat, it’s a waste for all involved.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                For instance:  Some people really cannot force themselves to eat rice – it’s a texture thing. And some cannot tolerate the taste of spaghetti sauce.                                                      Despite your best effort in making a meal, and their gratitude in your gift, it will not be as useful as it could be. (For example, I will not, cannot – not in a boat, not with a goat, not in the rain, not on a train….I will NOT eat eggs as the major ingredient.  So a beautiful quiche would be devoured by my husband and family, while I would have to open a can of something or other.  I would still send a thank you note of course, but if the meal were to help me out—-hhhmmm—–you get the point)

 

  • If you know your neighborhood well, and others are also taking in a meal(s) to the same family, it would be a good idea to ask the family what food(s) they have already had brought in. You don’t want to be the third well intended person in a row to bring in, say…. chili. 

 

  • If you are dropping the meal off early, or a freezer meal, be sure to label the food with what it is, the date to use by, along with any special cooking or reheating instructions.

 

  • Ask if there is a certain night they would like a meal brought in. Or let them pick from two or three nights that are convenient for you. 

 

  • If you have the means, taking in a freezer meal, along with a meal for that night, would be very appreciated.  

 

After delivering 5 cesarean babies,  several knee surgeries,  then total knee replacements on BOTH knees TWICE, adding in several other surgeries myself; not to mention all that has happened with 5 kids and a handsome hubby over upwards of 40 years of marriage; I have been a blessed recipient of numerous meals.  Truly they have been such a gift.

I have also taken in, or delivered more meals in my adult life now than I can begin to count. 

So, from receiving, and giving, so many meals, I’ve learned some tips that I’ll share with you about how to make it a win-win situation for everyone involved, as well as EASY too! 

 

Did you know there’s Etiquette to taking in a meal?

1 Ask what time they would like the meal brought in to avoid any embarrassing complications.

 

2- Should you take in a homemade or pre-made/frozen/purchased meal or dish? That’s up to you.

 

3- Make sure whatever the meal is, that it’s completely ready to serve to make it easy on the person you are helping. Meaning, they do not have to prepare it in any way, shape or form.

 

4- This is not the time to try to impress them with your amazing culinary skills of grandeur – imagined or real, lol.  Good old fashioned – comfort food is a winner every time.

 

5- Let the person know who you are bringing the meal into that you are:

A) just dropping off a meal (hot or one to be warmed up)

 

B) helping the kids have their dinner, cleaning up the dishes, getting the adults their dinner and tidying up afterwards – maybe you could even do a bit extra with the help of the kids:)

Only do what is comfortable for that person you are helping and best for you also.  You don’t want to put yourself in a situation that is awkward, anymore than you do the person you want to help.  It is very important to get the details clear before the meal is brought in.  Either way, let them know you have only the best intentions and can leave it with the kids at the door if that’s best.

 

6- Give a couple of choices that you are able to make or provide for the meal; meaning within your budget and ability.

For example, I have a grand daughter who at the age of four will eat Kim-chi and we are not Korean.  The girl will eat about anything and try everything that doesn’t run faster than her.

I have another grand daughter who likes……fast food pizza….oh and donuts:)

So ask the parents what ALL their kids will enjoy. Because you aren’t doing anyone a favor if they have to pull out the pans and make dinner after you leave to feed the kiddos. 

It’s not being picky in my opinion, it’s just life, and if we are there to support a friend in that situation, let’s be a help and not a hindrance. (Meaning no comments or judgments, that are not charitable in nature or nice in tone at this sensitive time for the family.)

 

7- Let the person know if you are bringing in the entire meal; meaning sides and dessert.  Or if you are just bringing in the main dish so they know what to plan on, and can make arrangements for the rest of the meal if needed.

 

8- Do all you can to NOT to be late or cancel.  Confirm the day or night before so it is clear that you are bringing in what you have discussed, as well verify the time.

If something does come up that is completely unavoidable and prevents you from taking in a meal, make sure to apologize and take in a meal soon as possible, along with one for the freezer due to the inconvenience.

 

9- If taking in meals for a new baby, I have special ideas in my post ALL THINGS BABY

 

10- Sometimes the situation is more complicated and you need to know how to handle the emotions and what is happening with the person or family that you are serving. It can be hard to know what’s appropriate when illness, tragedy, suicide or any other situation of deep mourning occurs.  What do you do? What do you say, or not say, is even more difficult. How can you help that is actually of benefit?  I have some great information at my post: How Can I Help When Someone Is Sick And Show I Care?

ways to help a person or family when tragedy, illness or hardship strikes their home. What to say, not to say, what to do and more

 

TIPS for taking in meals when someone is MOVING in or out

Take everything needed for the meal including:

  • ALL the paper products such as paper plates, cups, utensils, napkins

 

  • Drinks. Ask what they like and allow the kids to have; such as water bottles, type of perferred soda pop and kids punch pouches.

 

  • Ask if they will have access to the oven or stove to warm up the food.  If not, it would be considerate to take in (on a smaller scale of course) as I show in my post a COLD PASTA BAR or build-your own sandwiches with the ingredients and condiments in separate containers.  Or simply a variety of Sub Sandwiches for them to choose from. 

 

  • Find out if it would be more convenient to have the food transportable if they are moving from one location to another, and take the food in a disposable foam cooler.  THESE DISPOSABLE BOWLS  would be great to have on hand for this reason.  These recipes would work GREAT for this type of meal:

 

BEST CHICKEN PASTA SALAD

A cold pasta salad using rotini pasta that has grapes, celery, crisp apples, smokey Gouda cheese and toasted almonds. All topped with a creamy poppy seed mayonnaise dressing for a perfect dish

 

Asian Chicken and Orzo Pasta Salad

An oriental style bowl filled with a refreshing salad made with Orzo pasta, rotisserie chicken, fresh vegetables and a light refreshing dressing with a little spice from chili sauce and cool from Ranch dressing

 

The Easy Chicken Pot Pie and the Best Homemade Manicotti can be made and baked the same day or frozen for later use. 

Both come with printable baking instructions to include with the gifted dish

Click HERE for the Easy Chicken Pot Pie

This easy Chicken Pot Pie recipe tastes like homemade but it's with premade pie crusts, frozen vegetables and rotisserie chicken. The homemade savory sauce is gourmet and brings it all together. Freeze one for later

Best Chicken PotPie

 

 

 

 

 

Click HERE for Best Homemade Manicotti

A plate with green beans and manicotti stuffed pasta shells. The shells are filled with ground beef, cheeses and seasonings. They are topped with marinara sauce and more cheese then baked till warmed through

Easy Stuffed Manicotti Pasta

 

 

 

 

 

 

More ideas:

Best Chicken Fajitas

Delicious Chicken and fresh Vegetable Fajitas baked in the oven with green, red, orange and yellow bell peppers and onion. Seasoned with a wonderful homemade fajita seasoning. Serve with your choice of condiments.

 

Best Anytime Chicken Tacos

Two chicken tacos in hard shells with shredded rotisserie chicken. Chopped tomatoes, lettuce are on top of the tacos for a delicious meal that's quick, easy and delicious for a busy weeknight or lazy weekend meal.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Easy Vegetarian Fajitas also Gluten Free, and these are really

A beautiful plate of sauted peppers in several colors along with other vegetables all combined with the perfect spices to make this vegetarian fajita dish perfect for any meal.

 

Best Homemade Meatballs

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Easy Pizza Pasta Bake

A hearty casserole full of pizza flavors from the hearty sauce, pepperoni, olives and cheese all mixed into pasta.

Easy Hot Cheese & Ham Sliders on Sweet Hawaiian Rolls

A Hawaiian sweet roll with ham and Swiss cheese in the middle along with a complimentary mustard sauce. Topped with the traditional Poppy Seed sauce all warmed up to melt the cheese and heat the ham.

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2018

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.




Asking and Answering to High School Dances

Help Me! It’s Time For The Dance, Now What Do I Do?

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Part 3

Think about your clothing

  • Girls remember to choose shoes wisely and have your dress hemmed accordingly; you don’t want to trip over it all night.  
  • You are going to be in those shoes aallooonnnggg time that day and or night.  Keep that in mind when you pick them out.  Shoes like these below are cute, but not easy to dance, or walk in very long! If you do get blisters, use a piece of moleskin on the sore.  You can see it HERE
    Dating asking and answering

    Dating asking and answering

  • Girls, use body tape to keep blouses or tops in place and not revealing.  Also great for a quick hem fix. This tape is amazing and a must. Find it HERE

Modesty, however, is extremely attractive! 

  • PLEASE find a dress (or modify it) so it is modest. Little dresses are not enough to cover the subject in my humble opinion…

It is awkward and embarrassing for a young man when he expects his date will dress appropriately; yet finds otherwise when picking her up.  Seriously consider that you are advertising by how you dress.  I have 3 sons and 2 daughters. And from many years of experience and watching all the young men and women come through my life as friends of my kids, the girls appreciate when the other girls in the group are dressed modestly because of the atmosphere it creates.  The guys appreciate it, and can easily see how much self-confidence a girl has, when she doesn’t feel that she has to ‘advertise’ her body, as all that she has to offer – is skimpy clothing.  This leads to respect and friendship; the basis of all great relationships.

EXTRA GOOD INFO

Dating asking and answering

Dating asking and answering

  • To the young men being asked to a girls preference: When you are asked to a dance, if you feel it appropriate, give a her or small box of candy when she picks you up as a small thank you.
  • To the young ladies being asked to a guys preference: When you are asked to a dance, if you feel it appropriate, give a small box of candy to your date when he picks you up as a small thank you.

Such as:  HERE is one idea, and HERE is another, and HERE, and so many more if you type in ‘thank you’.

WHY?
It shows appreciation to that person that they would go to the expense and effort to take you to the dance. This goes a long way in showing gratitude, which comes out more naturally in other aspects of your life as you practice it here.

BIG DONT’s!

  • Do NOT be forward! Meaning, do not try to hold hands or hug, etc, etc, etc, if the other is not interested.
  • Do not dance suggestively!  Doing so, only ‘advertises’ that person has little to offer, and make the others in the group/date uncomfortable.
  • Profanity, crude jokes, and language are overheard by many.  My daughters would turn down dates with guys after hearing them talk in such a manner. Likewise, my sons would also not ask girls out after they overheard them talking ‘like a sailor’.   It is not impressive but degrading.

You Do NOT want to be remembered by your date, or others in the group like this-

Dating asking and answering

Dating asking and answering

BIG DO’s!

  • Let your date, their parents and yours, know the plans for the activities, times of events, cell numbers (at least yours if not others in the group) and locations for the night’s events. Providing an itinerary is very appreciated by parents and your date beforehand so they know how to prepare.  Such as how to dress for (it’s is not fun for a girl who is wearing heels to find out they are going on a long hike after leaving her house for the date – yikes!), what time to expect the date to start and end; all those details.  Besides being just plain considerate, it provides safety.

Girls, here’s a VERY useful tip:

  • I created a post that gives very simple step-by-step instructions on how to make a temporary pocket on your slip.  This will go under your dress to hold a cell phone, some money, your lipstick, maybe a credit card, your car key if you drove and a few needed items.  Ladies, you never, EVER want to be left in a compromising situation, and not having control of your phone, your car key if you drove, money, puts you in a possible dangerous situation if you do not know your date well….or even if you do! Gals I know you don’t want to carry a purse and will often times give your things to your date, which is not a good idea.  So this will allow you to carry them effortlessly, not matter the length of your dress, since it goes on your slip, to keep you safe.  Check it out HERE

Finally: You will want to remembered as a good person and someone others want to be around.  If you live by the Golden Rule:   Do Unto Others as you would have Them Do Unto You, then you will build a great reputation and wonderful friendships.  So enjoy this time of your life by being smart, staying safe and make good choices. 

I have awesome printables for ASKING AND ANSWERING TO DANCES and a Dating CHEAT SHEET to make dances AWESOME!

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2013, 2018

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

Pictures courtesy of Pixabay

More Teen Interests:

Part 1: How To Make Going To A High School Dance Painless

 

 

 

Part 2:  It’s Time For The Dance And Anxiety Has Arrived!

 

 

 

TEEN GROUP DATE & PARTY IDEAS
DATING CONVERSATION STARTER’S & WOW IDEAS
ARE WE ON A DATE?
TO DATE OR HANG OUT?
STORY ABOUT CHOOSE GOOD FRIENDS VS  ‘friends’ 

Asking and Answering to High School Dances

Help Me! It’s Time For The Dance, Now What Do I Do?

Print Friendly, PDF & Email

 

Part 3

Think about your clothing

  • Girls remember to choose shoes wisely and have your dress hemmed accordingly; you don’t want to trip over it all night.  
  • You are going to be in those shoes aallooonnnggg time that day and or night.  Keep that in mind when you pick them out.  Shoes like these below are cute, but not easy to dance, or walk in very long! If you do get blisters, use a piece of moleskin on the sore.  You can see it HERE
    Dating asking and answering

    Dating asking and answering

  • Girls, use body tape to keep blouses or tops in place and not revealing.  Also great for a quick hem fix. This tape is amazing and a must. Find it HERE

Modesty, however, is extremely attractive! 

  • PLEASE find a dress (or modify it) so it is modest. Little dresses are not enough to cover the subject in my humble opinion…

It is awkward and embarrassing for a young man when he expects his date will dress appropriately; yet finds otherwise when picking her up.  Seriously consider that you are advertising by how you dress.  I have 3 sons and 2 daughters. And from many years of experience and watching all the young men and women come through my life as friends of my kids, the girls appreciate when the other girls in the group are dressed modestly because of the atmosphere it creates.  The guys appreciate it, and can easily see how much self-confidence a girl has, when she doesn’t feel that she has to ‘advertise’ her body, as all that she has to offer – is skimpy clothing.  This leads to respect and friendship; the basis of all great relationships.

 

EXTRA GOOD INFO

Dating asking and answering

Dating asking and answering

  • To the young men being asked to a girls preference: When you are asked to a dance, if you feel it appropriate, give a her or small box of candy when she picks you up as a small thank you.
  • To the young ladies being asked to a guys preference: When you are asked to a dance, if you feel it appropriate, give a small box of candy to your date when he picks you up as a small thank you.

Such as:  HERE is one idea, and HERE is another, and HERE, and so many more if you type in ‘thank you’.

 

WHY?

It shows appreciation to that person that they would go to the expense and effort to take you to the dance. This goes a long way in showing gratitude, which comes out more naturally in other aspects of your life as you practice it here.

 

BIG DONT’s!

  • Do NOT be forward! Meaning, do not try to hold hands or hug, etc, etc, etc, if the other is not interested.
  • Do not dance suggestively!  Doing so, only ‘advertises’ that person has little to offer, and make the others in the group/date uncomfortable.
  • Profanity, crude jokes, and language are overheard by many.  My daughters would turn down dates with guys after hearing them talk in such a manner. Likewise, my sons would also not ask girls out after they overheard them talking ‘like a sailor’.   It is not impressive but degrading.

You Do NOT want to be remembered by your date, or others in the group like this-

Dating asking and answering

Dating asking and answering

BIG DO’s!

  • Let your date, their parents and yours, know the plans for the activities, times of events, cell numbers (at least yours if not others in the group) and locations for the night’s events. Providing an itinerary is very appreciated by parents and your date beforehand so they know how to prepare.  Such as how to dress for (it’s is not fun for a girl who is wearing heels to find out they are going on a long hike after leaving her house for the date – yikes!), what time to expect the date to start and end; all those details.  Besides being just plain considerate, it provides safety.

Girls, here’s a VERY useful tip:

  • I created a post that gives very simple step-by-step instructions on how to make a temporary pocket on your slip.  This will go under your dress to hold a cell phone, some money, your lipstick, maybe a credit card, your car key if you drove and a few needed items.  Ladies, you never, EVER want to be left in a compromising situation, and not having control of your phone, your car key if you drove, money, puts you in a possible dangerous situation if you do not know your date well….or even if you do! Gals I know you don’t want to carry a purse and will often times give your things to your date, which is not a good idea.  So this will allow you to carry them effortlessly, not matter the length of your dress, since it goes on your slip, to keep you safe.  Check it out HERE

Finally: You will want to remembered as a good person and someone others want to be around.  If you live by the Golden Rule:   Do Unto Others as you would have Them Do Unto You, then you will build a great reputation and wonderful friendships.  So enjoy this time of your life by being smart, staying safe and make good choices. 

 

I have awesome printables for ASKING AND ANSWERING TO DANCES in the store for free as wee as well as the Dating CHEAT SHEET!

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2013, 2018

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

Pictures courtesy of Pixabay

More Teen Interests:

Part 1: How To Make Going To A High School Dance Painless

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Part 2:  It’s Time For The Dance And Anxiety Has Arrived!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

TEEN GROUP DATE & PARTY IDEAS

DATING CONVERSATION STARTER’S & WOW IDEAS

ARE WE ON A DATE?

TO DATE OR HANG OUT?

STORY ABOUT CHOOSE GOOD FRIENDS VS  ‘friends’ 

HELP IS HERE TO ORGANIZE YOUR ROOM!