Lost Art of Relationships

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You and Your Mother-In-Law

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  This can be one of the most wonderful bed of roses relationships, 

   OR  one strewn with thorns and barbs,

   OR  one that is abandoned and completely ignored.

  Part 1 in the series of Mother-In-Law

This post is part of a series, and for now I will touch the surface of this very significant relationship with some tips of making it a two-way working connection.  Such as:

  • Is it important?
  • What do you call her?
  • Find something in common.
  • Do you know her?
  • Do you know her likes, her hobbies, her favorite foods?
  • Do you find ways to enjoy her?

Below is a picture of my husband Stan with my mom Connie.  He was trying to figure out my ‘Selfie Stick’ and she was photo bombing.  They tease and laugh with each other quite a bit.  Because they both have a terrific sense of humor, it has made a huge difference in how things have been handled over the years. They share a healthy relationship which is very open; meaning they both can speak freely, yet with consideration for the other person.  Of course there have been some bumpy spots over the years; yet the desire from both for a strong family bond  has prevailed through the trials. Learning and growing is a  natural growing pain -and joy – comes from joining families.  They are great friends as well as in-laws.

mother in lawMy mom is a fundamental part of my blog, and I am so grateful for her support. She has been incredibly generous to help with posts and other details when needed.mother in law 6This is Stan and his mom Meredith, my mother-in-law.  I have focused quite a bit on my mom while blogging and since this post is on mothers-in-law, Meredith is my topic. It IS important

Stan and I have been married for over thirty years now, so there is plenty of ‘water under the bridge’ as they say. I look back and am amazed at the progress and change in myself, actually, in all the relationships I have developed over my life time; with association with my mother-in-law as a vital and very important one.  You see, the relationship I have with my mother-in-law affects my marriage as well as the bond with my own children too; so it is definitely worth working at keeping alive and well fed the best I can.  That’s your best for your situation and circumstances.  I am grateful that she has overlooked my follies, insecurities and stupidities of youth, allowing me to evolve to become closer as friends and family.  We all come into a family from different backgrounds and with dissimilar outlooks on life.  It is best when both will allow the other to stumble, forgive, and help the along so they can become a better more mature person. That is an asset to the family. That’s what friends do.

We must show our children what we hope they will do in similar circumstances when they are later in our situation.  If it is not dangerous or destructive to the family, it is so much better to be open-hearted and believe the other person isn’t trying to harm or be of ill-will. Keep communication open, with kindness always at the forefront. Have as the central thought, that someday you will be the mother-in-law or father-in-law, and will hope that you will be allowed the same lea-way and kindness; with the outcome of open relationships and bonds with your adult children and grand-children.

What do you call her?

I do call call Meredith ‘Mom’.  Stan calls my mom ‘Mom’.  We discussed this when we first married and decided that for us it was right and showed respect.  I was joining Stan’s family.  Meredith was a good mother, a fine woman, and willing to allow me to marry her son.  Out of respect and because I felt she deserved the title and distinction from me, I call her mom, or mother.  Stan feels the same towards my mom.  As the kids came along, they saw that we honored and esteemed them as ‘Mom’.  It helped to solidify family relations also, in good as well as difficult times.

Of course this does not mean YOU need to call your mother-in-law ‘Mom’, but ALWAYS keep your language respectful, particularly in front of your children.  It sets the tone for how you will be treated in not that many years to come, when it is your turn to be the mother-in-law or father-in-law.

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Find something you like to do together

Stan and I would love to travel with either of our moms, or take them really nice places and do exciting things, but it is just not in our resources at this time.  So, instead of bemoaning what we can’t do, we figured out what we can do.  Meredith likes to watch movies. She is also a foodie like me, and  she is quite an excellent cook by the way.  So when we can get together, we go to her house and watch a movie.  As often as I am able, I make a dinner and dessert for us to eat together before the movie, giving us a chance to chat and catch up on what’s new.  Sometimes we do grab a pizza or salad when I’m in a time crunch; she is always a great sport about it either way, but I love how she compliments whatever I cook – that is the best! (Remember I said she is a fabulous cook, and she’s just plain nice.)  For a treat she likes good black licorice, popcorn, wonderful bread, a fabulous dessert, special flavored ice cream and fruit. She is a tremendously good sport and never gets offended when we watch a movie that Stan hates, which he is usually vocal about; such as ‘Life of Pi’.  He couldn’t stand it, and she just laughs when he brings it up.  She has set a marvelous example of letting those trivial matters slide off her back, and getting on to the next thing – or movie.

She also enjoys games and recently we had a game night.  We were played a few games, including ‘Reverse Charades’. The picture is fuzzy, but I wanted to share how she gets in and participates making memories for everyone.  One of her very best qualities, if I had to choose, which is difficult to single them out, would be that she can laugh at herself; which is a tremendous talent.Mom & Game NightGet to know her

You can’t appreciate someone you don’t know

Meredith, Mom to me, is quite amazingly skilled in so many areas.  She grew up in a very small town, yet never let that be an excuse for not attaining a higher education, nor making her children speak correctly aka use the English language properly, and strive to be their best.  She married George, a wonderful man and they together they had four children.  Very unexpectedly dad, George, died almost 25 years ago.  She has never remarried.  Though she misses him very much, she keeps herself very busy.  She worked until retirement. Afterwards she has taken yoga and other exercise classes to keep up her health.  She is a naturally shy person, but strives to go out and keep in touch with family and friends, attending plays, concerts, luncheons and other social events. I greatly admire that since I know what a struggle it is for her to reach out when she is naturally an introvert.

She absolutely loves jigsaw puzzles and is fabulous at them; mainly because she is incredibly smart. Really, I mean seriously, she can remember things I can barely recall the basic facts about, and she recounts meticulous details!!!  Anyway, she has a puzzle going most all the time.Mother in Law 8Her craft room is set up with fabric galore, puzzles waiting and other projects to keep her mind occupied, her spirits lifted and her hands busy. I want to be just like her this way the older I get.

Mother in Law 9Reading is another one of her passions, which she is amazingly fast at, going through countless books on her Kindle.

She learned crafts as a girl and is willing to pass them on.  I asked her to teach my girls, which she was happy to do. She taught my girls to cross stitch when they were young and in 4-H.

She also taught them to crochet, and tried to teach me, but I can only crochet one thing which is not her fault.  In fact, I applaud her patience for hanging in there with me until I finally conquered my one project.  She probably needed a bottle of Excedrin by the end of it, but didn’t even complain once.

Sewing for her kids and family was another accomplished skill, but quilting is her love.Mother in Law10She has made a quilt for all of her kids (that includes in-laws), grand kids, a special quilt is gifted when they are married, and she hopes to be able to complete one for each of the great-grandchildren.  They are absolutely stunning and each a unique masterpiece of art.  Through the quilts, we have our own tangible, embraceable piece of Meredith – mom – grandma.Mother in Law11

Mother in Law12These are the quilts Mom made for Stan and me!  They are so beautiful and I am very blessed to have the relationship I do with my Mom (mother-in-law), my Mom (birth mom) and that Stan does also. It truly makes our family a bit of heaven on earth. Mother in Law12I realize the Mother-In-Law relationship can be a precarious one in some situations, but it can also be sweet. It is one that does more often than not, require effort, time, determination, love, understanding, an open-heart and wanting what is best for the family, not just for the  moment.

I will dig deeper into this sometimes complicated relationship as this series continues and hopefully give some helps to bring healing, peace and joy to the mother-in-law and daughter relationship in future installments of this series.   For now, find the good, prayer for guidance if necessary and appreciate her.

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015

Recognize a Blessing and Be a Blessing Today

 

 

My son's wedding and the details

I Met My Daughter-In-Law To Be For The First Time Over The Phone

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My head felt a little flush and my stomach got a bit tight. I was nervous, but at the same time I felt calm and happy for my son.  It was all so surreal as my son introduced us to our future daughter-in-law over face-time, a phone app, for the first time.  What would you do?

We chose colors, wedding details, and worked to get to know each other as much as possible over the phone that summer.  It’s been a year since then, and looking back, it was a wedding day of miracles, growing love and much joy.  

Let me share our story with you- it’s quite remarkable.

Dallin decided to leave Utah to attend law school at Creighton in Nebraska.  While he was there, he met Brooke.  

They dated;

Got to know each other;

Became very good friends;

They found they were beginning to love one another, and so they nurtured it with healthy dating.

Continuously working hard to lay a solid foundation of respect, trust and honor as the base; knowing that would make it last- happily.

It was becoming apparent, that both wanted this relationship to be a bond that would last forever.  

On a Sunday, as usual, Stan called to facetime Dallin.  Well, Brooke happened to be sitting next to Dallin. 

Stan, my handsome hubby, asked who the pretty gal was.

Well…. Dallin, who is more private in his social life than some of our other kids…kinda spilled the beans that he was seriously dating Brooke (very serious it turned out), and their love story for us began. 

Luckily for us, WE ADORE HER!!!  She is truly a blessing to our family and we couldn’t be happier to have her as a Groneman.

LET ME INTRODUCE YOU TO DALLIN AND BROOKE

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

For me, it was an interesting experience because Brooke was working very hard to finish her schooling, preparing for the Bar Exam in Omaha. and working a part time job.  So, as much as she wanted to be involved, she could only do so much!

Ok, a little mom-in-law brag here: Brooke has a Bachelors Degree in Phycology, an MBA, a Juris Doctorate (specializing in Patent Law), and currently finishing a Masters in Biology as I write this post.

Anyway, back to my story. During that time, Dallin had traveled to Colorado to clerk for a judge as part of his schooling.

Meanwhile, I’m back here in Utah figuring out the details for the wedding and reception, as they decided to have it in Utah, and her family would travel here to participate.

 

MY GIRLS SAVED MY SANITY 

I am so blessed to have two daughters and 2 daughters-in-law, Brooke now joining the clan to make three. 🙂

Ohhhh SO much to do from arranging from what everyone would wear to decorating the reception center, to what to serve for refreshments, to countless other minor details. Needless to say, I was a bit overwhelmed, particularly not knowing Brooke well and wanting it to be ‘perfect’ for her.

My girls stepped in, and were angels!!! 

For example, one particularly exhausting day, after running from store to store, we finally found blouses to match the skirts I had been made from discount cloth that I found at a local fabric store.

Tawni and Ashley stayed until the very last minute, so we went to grab a bite to eat. We visited, laughed, and it was so nice to just relax. They are so good to me.

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

For the refreshments, I had a tight shoestring budget, but I also wanted it to be nice.  Danitra, one of my daughter’s, crunched numbers continually. 🙂 

We chased down donut trucks and other food trucks to try them out, to see if any of those would work— huge sacrifice I know—yummy:) (Isn’t my grand daughter adorable too!)  I look back on that time with fondness.  We always have such fun together. 

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

As a way to highlight Brookes colors, we settled on a sweet treat.We purchased the candy sticks at the Peppermint Place in American Fork. They have candy sticks in bulk in SO many colors and flavors! They really are the nicest people to work with too.

In American Fork at a candy store that is a dream of a kid – of any age – called The Peppermint Palace, they carry candy sticks in bulk in SO many colors and flavors! They really are the nicest people to work with too. And if you go during certain hours you can watch them decorate candy too!

Candy sticks were sweet additions to the centerpieces making it extra special. 

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

SHE CAME!

Brooke had been trying to find/make a wedding dress work for weeks back in Omaha.  With her heavy work and school schedule it was very frustrating for me to watch her go through that so far away.  That was one thing I couldn’t fix for her.  We lucked out (actually a miracle happened), and she was able to fly here for 2 1/2 days and boy did I cram in everything!

On our way to the airport, Stan, Delsi and I stopped at the Draper (Utah) Cold Stone Ice Cream Store. These wonderful store owners are who we had chosen to cater Dallin and Brooke’s wedding reception after Danitra and I had looked at all the choices.

Cheryl and Seth were AMAZING, and I would recommend them to everyone for any occasion you have!

We were able to taste so many of the ice creams, if not all off of them!  I mean they didn’t hold back, they were so kind and wanted to make sure we were happy with our choice.  We narrowed it down to 10, including a choice for those who have special dietary needs too! You’ve got to come the Draper store folks! 801-706-5867.  

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

We packed the containers of flavors we chose in dry ice and drove to the airport to pick up Brooke.

However, as the three of us stood there waiting for her, we watched others with their signs waiting for friends and relatives to arrive and realized we hadn’t brought anything to distinguish us.

Remember, she hadn’t met us in person before!  Sssooo, my ever resourceful handsome hubby Stan did this!

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

We found each other easily and headed straight for Debbie’s place.

Debbie owns Dessert Edge Cakes, they are DELISH, and extremely affordable too!

You get to taste the cake, choose your design and she is FABULOUS to work with!  www.dessertedgecakes.com  801-485-0354.  Tell her I sent you:) I wish I had a reason to just order a cake to eat it right now!!!

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

I ABOUT KILLED HER  IN THE DETAILS

The next day I was so excited to take Brooke to see the venue.  I had made an appointment for us at This Is The Place and we arrived in the morning.  What I didn’t realize is that Brooke hadn’t been to an elevation of 800 feet and we are at 5,500 feet.  So after showing her around some of the park after seeing the reception building, I get a call from my son asking me why I was trying to kill his fiance.  WHAT?  

She was too shy to tell me, but she was getting physically ill from the high altitude….oooppss….lesson learned.  

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

The next day was dress shopping.  We found her PERFECT dress at Petal’s & Promises Bridal in Logan 435-753-8022.  She looked just radiant and it was YES to the dress.

Picking out flower arrangements and many other details were worked out also.

It worked out so perfectly that Dallin was able to drive over from Colorado to join us.

Our family had the best time ‘helping’ pick out the final six flavors of ice cream – yummy!  All the siblings and grandkids sat around the table with spoons in hand as we tried each one of the flavors, some a few times, just to make sure we knew what it tasted like. 

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

THE BIG DAY ARRIVED

Dallin and Brooke chose to be married in the Salt Lake City LDS Temple.

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

Brooke with her mom, family and maid of honor. We are SO grateful to have these wonderful people as a part of our family too! 

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

I want to give a side note here to all those who have parents involved, namely mom’s who are unable to go into the temple to be with their daughters for the ceremony.  I found out, that day through miraculous events, that there is a special room at the Salt Lake Temple, in the visitor area on the south side. A room where guests wait for the wedding couple.

This dressing room has mirrors, and is really nice. And it CAN be used for brides to come to AFTER the ceremony, to get into her wedding dress, with the help of her mom, sisters, or whomever she would like to help her, so that they can also be apart of this very special occasion.  

The bride can then go out the south doors, or can be taken to where her groom is waiting at the traditional area to exit out the west doors facing the temple usual.  If you have this situation, call ahead and make arrangements for the comfort of all.  It made our day delightful to do this, as I was able to be Brooke’s escort in the temple, and then I was able to leave her with her mom, grandma, twin sister and friends to change into her wedding dress. This made everyone feel as included as possible. 

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

The couple with me, Stan and my beautiful mother-in-law Meredith.

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

WHAT’S A FIRST LOOK?

Brooke wanted the photographer Steve (amazing by the way) and works for James Erick Photography (801-678-6240) to do a ‘First Look’.  Steve was terrific to do anything and everything he could for us and didn’t flinch at the curve ball I tossed at him. Steve took it in stride and made it happen.  He was professional, patient, approachable and just nice the entire day and evening. We loved our pictures like these!

My son's wedding and the details

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Ok, sorry back to the wedding day.

Well, I hadn’t had a chance to explain the ‘First Look’ to Steve, but as I hinted he quickly put it together for us.  Brooke came out one door, she was with her mom, sister and friends at the south door which was convenient. While Dallin had his back to her when he came out the traditional door.  He had not seen her in her wedding dress, so this was the ‘First Time’ or ‘First Look’ – and his reaction was priceless. 

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After family pictures were taken, they had the usual one taken areound Temple Square as a couple…..

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

Stan, our kids, a few others and I ran to the reception place to get things ready.  We had chosen The Heritage Building at This Is The Place in Salt Lake City                801-582-1847 (you know how much I love that place if you follow my Instagram, lol).

 

THE RECEPTION

The Cold Stone Creamery Ice Cream Bar was a HIT!  Ice cream of the guests choice, from the six flavors Dallin and Brooke chose – from the ten that we chose (remember they were out of state so we selflessly tasted all the scrumptious ice creams and picked the ten out for them) and they were even labeled with ‘Groom’s’ and ‘Bride’s’ Favorites for fun! They guest could have their ice cream in a delicious waffle bowl with a choice of four syrups such as chocolate, caramel, strawberry, etc.  Then the toppings, and these aren’t all of them!  It really was the best bargain AND we got to take the extra home!!!  

Ice cream of the guests choice, from the six flavors Dallin and Brooke chose – from the ten that we chose (remember they were out of state so we sacrificed and tasted all the scrumptious ice creams and picked the ten for them) and they were even labeled with ‘Groom’s’ and ‘Bride’s’ Favorites for fun! The guest could have their ice cream served in a delicious waffle bowl with a choice of four syrups such as chocolate, caramel, strawberry, etc.  Then the toppings, and these aren’t all of them!  It really was the best bargain AND we got to take the extra home!!!  

What did we do with the extra ice cream and waffle bowls?  If you’ve read about our 2nd Sunday’s, it happened to be one that weekend, and you can read all about how that came together HERE

The Strawberry Mango Banana Sorbet was the Gluten-free, Vegan Free, Dairy Free and AMAZINGLY YUMMY!!!

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

In Utah, it’s not unusual to have a traditional receiving line, which we did.  This means the parent(s) of the bride and groom, sometimes siblings and special friends; along with newlyweds, greet guests who come to see them, as they stand in a line for a specific time during the reception.  It’s a wonderful chance to thank those who took the time to come for their kindness, to spend a little time and share their special day.

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

SHOW OFF:) 

Stan collected pictures of Brooke and gathered many of Dallin’s to put in a slide show along with music for the guests to watch so they could get to know them a little bit better as they enjoyed the reception. 

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

KIDS ARE WELCOME

Receptions that have a traditional line, or a dinner, or whatever the case maybe, and involve toddlers or kids can be difficult because they become bored.

We wanted the kids to have something to do, so the parents were comfortable to stay, visit, relax.   To enjoy their time with us, those they met there and each other. 

I LOVE having my grand kids a part of anything possible!

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

My daughter-in-law Ashley made all the grand daughter’s girls dresses.  They were just adorable and as sweet as could be- Perfect for the day! She would love to make little girls dresses, and matching items for the boys for your special day.

You will find Ashley here: Aria’s Little Lovely Dresses 

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

WHAT DO WE DO WITH THESE KIDS?

So to solve this issue we had a KIDS AREA!  

We had wonderful gals who agreed to stay the length of the reception in the Kids Area so I didn’t need to worry about that at all.  They were there to help them, get out the supplies, food and look after them as need, but the door STAYED OPEN and parents were gotten as children cried or needed anything.

We had a video showing:

Choose one that is very family friendly and that a wide age range would enjoy.

Toys such as:
Lincoln Logs

Cars & Floor Road

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

You gotta feed ’em Food: 

I LOVE these cups!  They have lids, a way to mark the kids names on them and it’s easier to keep from spills which is IMPORTANT for those of us who cannot risk a slip or fall for injury!  Check out these drinking cups for the kiddos HERE

Goldfish Crackers are always a hit with kids of any age.  You can easily find them HERE

Annies Organic Fruit Snacks are a healthy treat to have on hand, they are HERE

Granola Bars are good to have also, check these out HERE 

 

Keep ’em busy with Things to Do:

Clipboards solve the issue of what the kids have to color on for the coloring pages and whatever else. I have a link HERE

HERE is a coloring book for young kids to take out the pages for each child to color for an idea you can see.

Dot-to-dot is always a hit, and pages come out easily for passing out. You might like this one HERE.

HERE are word searches and more.

Oh don’t forget crayons HERE

And lastly for this activity it’s great to have colored pencils, especially if you have coloring pages for olders kids and even adults, I have a link HERE

Adjust for ages and you can have coloring pages for ages up through adult too:)

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Back to Dallin & Brooke

THE CAKE CUTTING

Always a fun part of the reception.  I’ll let you guess if they made a mess…:)

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

THE FLOWER TOSS *See more of the flowers below

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Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

THE GARTER TOSS

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

FIRST DANCE AS A COUPLE

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

And now it’s time to leave for the honeymoon.

I would suggest one thing that I learned from that night. 

I had purchased bubbles with HUGE ratings, ‘perfect’ 5-Star, all of that. Yet you can see here we are without any bubbles :/

May I recommend THIS for your event, in addition to the bottles of BUBBLES.  It’s good to have THIS as a backup to add to the pageantry…. you know….to look marvelous for the pictures.  THIS is what my grand kids love to play with and it really works! I definitely would have had it in addition to the BOTTLES OF BUBBLESif I would have know about it.  Better safe, then…well…without bubbles, lol. 

Regardless of the failing bubbles, the couple looked amazing, and off they went to Italy!

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

Stan and I can’t tell all the family and friends who helped in countless ways, how grateful we are for making Dallin and Brookes wedding remarkable.  We appreciate all the kindnesses and generosity that were shown in large and small ways; it all made such a difference. 

 

THE FLOWERS

We loved our flower lady who made the most incredible bouquets, Boutonniere’s, mother’s corsages, and all the other arrangements involving flowers.  Her name is Pat and she has a charming shop by her home called Berglund Floral.  You can reach her at (801) 444-2026.  Pat is extremely easy to work with and her prices are very affordable.  I hope you give her a call.

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

SMELL THE ROSES, THEN SPREAD THE LOVE

I apologize for the terrible quality of this picture, but it was that important that I share this with you.

At the venue, there was a HUGE fireplace with a ginormous mantle that would show in the pictures behind us.  I needed to do something with it, and since we were decorating, it needed to be on a shoestring budget, but also very attractive and nice.

I started looking for ideas and came across Sam’s Club and that they sold roses in bulk – who knew?  Right!

They were wonderful to work with and they delivered them on the exact day I needed them and they were GORGEOUS!!!!

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

Pat worked her magic and made a stunning display to put on the mantle using all the roses I purchased.  You can see how talented she is to incorporate inexpensive artificial greenery and flowers with the roses.  It was perfect.

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

After the reception, I had dozens and dozens of roses left over—-what to do with them all?

Actually, I had a plan all along.  

See, I had been saving up bottles the few weeks prior to the reception as I emptied them when cooking.  Mayo jars, pickle bottles, fun salad dressing bottles; all sorts of things. I soaked them and cleaned off the labels, having them ready for this event I knew was coming. 

While cleaning up that night, I had everyone keep the longer ribbons attached to the square vases holding the candy sticks and other vases.

Arranging the roses, greenery, and ribbons it turned out like this. 

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

Can you guess what I did?

I took them to a local care center!  They loved them and enjoyed them more than we ever could have.  

If you have left over flowers, corsages, boutonniere’s or any decorations that would be appropriate to cheer someone else up with —PLEASE, don’t hesitate to drop them off. Or better yet, take the family, friends, or just you go on it say HELLO and make some’s day a little better.

 

LET’S BACK UP A LITTLE

The night before the wedding, Brookes family came into town and we were able to meet them and get together for a very casual dinner.  

Derek and Tawni (my son and daughter-in-law) were so gracious to host this event at their home. They made everyone feel very welcome and comfortable.

Because they have a wood burning brick oven on their deck, they chose to make homemade pizzas.  It was so delicious and really a nice evening.  Stan and I are very grateful to Derek, Tawni and everyone who helped make that night so yummy and fun.

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Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

COOKIN

Tawni, and her helper, were prepping in the kitchen – don’t worry, we didn’t leave it all up to those two, we helped too:) Tawni made several flavors of scrumptious pizzas. 

Derek does a fantastic job baking up the works of art that Tawni makes, I mean they are AMAZING – we caught him taste testing.

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Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

We brought salads and sides.

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

And PIZZA is Served!

My son's wedding and the details

Details of wedding and reception for bride and groom.

I hope you have enjoyed this wedding post.  Best wishes for many years of happiness and health to the happy couple.

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2017

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

Kids with Beans

Playtime with Dry Beans and Small Vehicles

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Kids with Beans

Beans & Car Indoor Playtime

This is the BEST way to help expend energy, use creative juices, and have some entertainment without technology.
It’s so easy to have on hand and quick to pull out any time.
If your grandkidlet is stuck inside and driving the family crazy, has been sick, or maybe had surgery, how about sending one or two of these fun items so they can all have a bit of relaxation and know you are thinking of them!  A bit of chocolate for the mom or dad too wouldn’t be a bad idea also:) See how to send it in a fun way HERE:
 

Playtime with Dry Beans & Small Vehicles

I keep dry beans in a bag, then pull them out and pour them in a shallow box, or containers like these.
I also have construction vehicles and small cars for them to drive through or build in the beans.
When they are done I just pour the beans back into the bag to use again next time. 
I’ve recycled mine for years now!
The cars and construction vehicles are always in used in many other ways too. It’s a fabulous way to keep them entertained for long stretches of time and for all ages. I like to have a variety for color and size because it helps to stimulate creativity and keeps them playing longer also.
 

       Click on titles to see products: 

6 Set Toy Construction Vehicles 

12 Pack Assorted Construction Vehicles Toy, Die Cast Vehicles Truck Mini Car Toy For Kids Toddlers


 
 

For MORE  inside boredom busters that you can take out for easy play here are some more favorites to have on hand-

I absolutely LOVE these noodles as they call them.  They are made from cornstarch and stick together with a bit of water.  They can stick on windows, or to each other! They do not stain, nor do any harm and come off with a bit of water. Great for the entire family for hours and hours of play.  Grab a bunch of them  by clicking on the word or product because once the teenagers and the parents see how much fun the little ones are having – game on! 🙂

 Stikits                          Stikits Eco Friendly Foam Wet and Stick Construction Set (180 Pieces)

         

Another FABULOUS activity!

Kinetic sand.  It is so cool and feels really neat.  Seriously, it’s addicting for anyone who touches it to play and play and play.  It’s reusable, sticks to itself and cleans up easily! 

This one:  Sand Clay for Kids, Kinetic Sand & Molds Activity Set

 
 
Or this National Geographic is a great choice too

 
Add in this Sand Activity Kit and you have tons of extra play time           

 
Copyright Carrie Groneman, 2017
Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today



Different ways to wrap and send a gift than just in a regular box or container

Did You Know You Can Mail Holiday Gifts THIS Way?

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Different ways to wrap and send a gift than just in a regular box or container

Unique and creative ways to send presents in the US postal service

There’s a special from 11/19 through 11/24 at Dollar Tree for flat rate shipping! CLICK HERE for this GREAT deal! 

 

It’s coming! Christmas is such a wonderful time of the year and why not make it even more memorable. It’s all about making and keeping relationships and sending a gift in the mail is one way!

How?

Did you know you can send items in the mail just as they are? 

Seriously! 

I’m telling you, things you never thought you could mail in the snail mail — you can!

I have some cute and fun packaging ideas as well as making gift wrapping for family, friends, relatives anything but boring!

Watch my video for unique and creative ways to send presents in the US postal service and bring a smile not only the recipient, but you’ll be smilin too and so excited waiting for them to get their imaginative wrapped gift in the mail.

If you like my suggestions, you can click on any HERE below and it will take you to the section in Dollar Tree’s on-line store that you need.  It’s a flat shipping rate, which is so economical! If more of an item is needed in the order, split it with a coworker, or a friend – Easy- peasy!!!

 

In my YouTube Video, I have TONS of ideas for:

  • WHAT to send
  • awesome ways of HOW to send these gifts and holiday presents
  • and to suggestions of WHO to send them to
  • simply click  HERE

I LOVE sending fun things in the mail and the reaction I see when we SKYPE or WHATSAPP

Or when they call excitedly to tell me ‘what’ they received in the mail – the response is priceless! 

 

Here’s a list of the items I used in the video if you’d like to check them out:

 

  • One of the ideas I show you in my video is a delish unique homemade White Hot Cocoa that is AMAZING and one of the most popular on my blog. I have a free recipe card you can include with the White Hot Cocoa so your family and friends can make their own too!  You’ll find the link in the post along with the super easy recipe HERE

 

  • Another free special recipe card I wanted to provide for you is my own SEASONING SALT.  Then you can include it with the Seasoning Salt as you send it in the mail in a clever way. A fabulous gift for everyday use. You’ll find the recipe and the printable link HERE

 

 

 

  • You’ll find links for all SIX of my SCRUMPTIOUS Popcorn Recipes HERE

 

Plastic and other unique containers HERE

Christmas Kitchen Towel Set HERE

Pencils, Markers, Sticker Pads, Crafts and more HERE

Toys, Games, Arts, more Crafts and other fun things HERE

Christmas containers such as the mailboxes, bags and seasonal items HERE

For more ideas and suggestions see my post: Did You Know You Can Send THAT In the Mail?

 

FTC Disclosure Statement: I will be compensated if you make a purchase after clicking on my links.

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2018

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story of Squanto's life and how he helped the pilgrims

Thanksgiving and Squanto, A True Hero

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story of Squanto's life and how he helped the pilgrims

A true story of how turning hard experiences into positive ways to help others. Trusting God and His ways in our life.

Thanksgiving and Squanto, A True Hero

Do you know the story of Thanksgiving and Squanto, A True Hero?

The story of the pilgrims is familiar, remarkable and exemplary; however, the story of Squanto completely intrigues me.

Granted as you investigate, you will find many variations of the story, but here I have done my best to bring you the most common and universal one that has been researched best possibly since it happened so long ago. 

It a story of miracles, forgiveness, love, surviving with  dignity and seeing God’s hand in ways never imagined.

You will never think of Thanksgiving the same after reading this amazing life of Squanto.

To easily teach your family his story I have a Family Time-Family Home Evening (FHE) Lesson all about Squanto HERE


SQUANTO’S STORY

Squanto, or his Indian name, Tisquantum, was a Patuxet, which was a band of the Wampanoag tribe.

Traders were known to the Indians as they came from far away Europe, including, of course, England. One day in 1614, a Captain Hunter directed his ship along the coast of what we now call Massachusetts to trade with the Indians. Squanto and some friends went to see the Captain, as he had traded with them before. Rather than trade with the boys, Captain Hunter and his men hit the young men over the head. The boys were immediately transformed into his captives.

Can you imagine the terror these Indian boys felt as they regained consciousness in a dark, stuffy, rolling vessel? The food was putrid; rats were scampering about; the water was rancid; not to mention the sheer brutal treatment as a young Indian captive. After what would have been several months, the ship stopped in a land the youth had never imagined even existed: Malaga, Spain.

The Indians were herded off the ship and into the sunlight. The light stung their eyes and drove an intense pain right to their brain after spending several months in the dark hull of the ship. Horror, dread, and shock were likely but a few of the emotions these boys felt as they were lined up to be sold as slaves.


Here is one account of Squanto’s kidnapping:

When Friars, or Monks as they are also referred to in many historical accounts, in Malaga discovered that Squanto and others had been kidnapped and were being sold as slaves, immediately took custody of as many of them as they could.  

The Monks took them to the Catherdral where they were taught the Christian faith, the Spainish language and the culture of Spain. 

Many did not believe in slavery or what was happening all over the world  and did not agree at all; knowing it was inhumane, cruel and evil .  In fact, Sir Ferdinando Gorges states, the Friars (Monks) were “so disappointed this unworthy fellow of the hopes of gain he conceived to make by this new and devilish project.”

Although living with the Monks was unfortunate, in the circumstances that took him there in the first place, he must have realized  how different his life could have been, had someone else purchased him that day at the auction.

Naturally he missed his home, his family, his people, and his land.  The Monks, understanding this, managed to arrange for Squanto to travel to England from Spain, in hopes of finding a ship. It must be noted that the odds of Squanto actually traveling back to the American continent were stacked high against him.

It is unfortunate that we do not have the history of how Squanto traveled from Spain to England. Did he have a map? Did he travel with a caravan?

The speech he had learned as a baby was now replaced with the Spanish dialect of the monks.

As he traveled, he likely did not understand English, which would be a major detriment once he entered the country.

 

Squanto somehow came to reside as a stable boy for a family in London, England,whose name was Slaney. He prayed fervently every single day to someday return home to his family, to hug and kiss his parents, his siblings, his friends. The longing for this reuniting must have been agonizing.

Finally, a trading ship was scheduled to sail to the coast of North America. It was around 1618, and another five years had passed while he was in England and learning the English culture and language. Because of his linguistic capabilities, he became the translator on the ship in trade of passage.

Another Popular Account of the kidnapping:

After landing in Spain, Squanto was taken by a ship captain to London, then to Newfoundland, then back to England after a few years to be an interpreter.   While working as as an interpreter he was on a ship that sailed back to New England and to his homeland. 

Back to our story:

Any travel by ship back then would have been rigorous and long.

It was now 1619 when the ship landed and, by providence, it stopped on the coast of Massachusetts. He must have bolted off the vessel and ran as swiftly as he could to the home of his boyhood. I’m sure tears of joy were streaming down his face as he made his way to the village.

Horrified, he saw the place was abandoned. There was no one there, not even a dog to bark and announce his arrival.

 



Traveling on, he found Indians in a neighboring tribe who told him the devastating news that a disease had struck and everyone had died. There was not a soul left of his family or his friends.

The heartbreak and sadness, even depression hung around him, weighing  like the smoke of the continual camp fire.

He had yearned for this moment: to see his beloved people for over ten years, and now it was never to be.

Squanto went to the woods to live by himself, in self-designated seclusion.

He was no longer an Indian with the ways of the tribes. 

He was not an Englishman or a stable boy.

He was not an interpreter to merchants, sailors or those who needed his language skills. 

His family and tribe were gone.

He found himself as a lone man without family or country; truly a stranger in a strange land, if there ever was one.

Meanwhile, in 1620, a little band of Pilgrims suffered great persecution from their own countrymen and government.  They decided to sacrifice all for the opportunity to worship God freely, and in their own way. Crossing the great Atlantic in a relatively small boat for a long ocean voyage, and put complete trust in God and His purpose for them.

Landing at Plymouth, they anticipated and dreamed of a life of freedom to worship as Christians, along and with enough prosperity to raise their families.

The first year for the small band was nightmarish. Disaster struck the settlement, and fifty percent of their population died. No one could have blamed them had any questioned God’s purpose in all that had happened. Their disastrous situation was catastrophic, leaving the Pilgrims barely able to see any light or prospects in the situation; only more death and starvation.

An Indian from a neighboring tribe tried to communicate with the Pilgrims, to help them; but to no avail. He traveled to find Squanto, knowing he had lived with the white man and could communicate with these people who were obviously suffering.

Squanto sympathized with the news of the strangers, ignored his own pain and sorrowful circumstance and walked to the village.  As he approached he spoke to them in English. Can you imagine the shock of the Pilgrims? An Indian brave speaking the King’s English in 1621!

Ironically, the Pilgrims had settled and made their homes on the very spot that Squanto’s parents, friends and family had lived.

See, the village that had been abandoned, providing the Pilgrims a much needed place of shelter.

Squanto not only taught them, but was such a good and trusted friend, that he was adopted by this group of people as ‘one of them’! A place, friends, FAMILY!

 

 



Squanto knew this land well as he had worked alongside his parents; now he could teach the Pilgrims how to plant corn with fish as a fertilizer, how to embed a gourd around the cornstalk to help it grow and other ways to live on the land.

Not only that, but he taught them to fish, to get eels out of the muddy streams, and to find lobsters.

Because Squanto  had been in the places he had, learned the language to communicate, had the vast resource of knowledge to communicate AND chose to look to God for His will and purpose in his life, Squanto was prepared and able to be a savior to this very special group.

Why is that important?

Because this little band of struggling Pilgrims would be a seed, the beginning and foundation for the United States of America!

Squanto opened relations and trade with various Indian tribes and the settlers which was critical for survival.

In fact, Plymouth Governor William Bradford was moved to declare him a “spetiall (special) instrument sent of God for [their] good”.

We all have struggles, trials and circumstances that are so foreign and even incomprehensible at times that we naturally question why we must endure these incredible hardships.

We may even wonder if God is there, knows us, and has a plan that is for our good?

I know that if we pray, stay close to Him and remember that He loves each one individually, because we are His son or daughter, then we can begin to realize that His love is unfathomable and enduring.

Our Father in Heaven has not sent us here to fail, but to overcome the things of the world that do not matter, to be triumphant in overcoming our own weaknesses, to be steadfast in persevering through difficulties and to endure well to the end by never losing faith in Him, His son Jesus Christ, or our ability to love as He loves us.

We may not have the spectacular events of Squanto, but be assured, and do not doubt that God has a plan for you!

His loving and kind eye is always on you.

His love is continually there to surround you.

His ways are not always going to mirror ours, but they are perfect. His hand is outstretched continually, never failing to lead you along on correct paths.

As we celebrate this Thanksgiving season, let us count our blessings one by one. It is amazing what the Lord is doing to help us be more like Him. Let us have courage and determination to be victorious while on our journey here in this life, despite challenges that may be placed in our way. For this I pray, for each and every one. Happy Thanksgiving.

 

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2014 (edited by Dallin Groneman 2016 – THANK YOU son!!!)

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In this post are eight tags to attach to small gifts or homemade goodies

FREE Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags

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In this post are eight tags to attach to small gifts or homemade goodies

8 Free download Gifts Tags to choose from

Use these FREE Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags to meet your new neighbors!

Most of us find it a bit uncomfortable to introduce our self to someone we haven’t met before, or hardly know.

However, helping the new move-in’s in our neighborhood feel welcome is important for many reasons, a few are: unity, safety, for harmony and it really helps if people are on good terms and that comes as they know each other.  

One of the best ways to do this is to take a small gift or treat and say ‘HELLO’.  It truly is one of the kindest things we can do.

To help make it more comfortable, easy, inexpensive and creative, I’ve created for you EIGHT FREE WELCOME TO THE NEIGHBORHOOD TAGS  that are editable/fill-in so you can personalize them!  Download them HERE or free 

I’ve put together some ideas of how to use these tags, along with a few links of where to find a few of the items to check out if you’d like.  Most important, get out and meet those new neighbors so they can enjoy your friendship! 

8 different Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags to put on various items as described in the post to make it really easy and comfortable to meet new neighbors

8 Free Editable/Fill-in Welcome Neighborhood Tags

Here I used dish cloths and dish soap.  Keeping some good quality dish cloths on hand like THESE to give a couple with the tag and soap would be a great welcome gift.

 

 

8 different Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags to put on various items as described in the post to make it really easy and comfortable to meet new neighbors

8 Free Editable/Fill-in Welcome Neighborhood Tags

Making quick bread in disposable pans and attaching with a bright ribbon would make anyone feel welcome.  I made my BEST Poppy Seed Bread for this and it’s always a favorite.

 

 

8 different Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags to put on various items as described in the post to make it really easy and comfortable to meet new neighbors

8 Free Editable/Fill-in Welcome Neighborhood Tags

This little package is not only fancy, but it’s very useful.  Wrapped individually are: 3 pack of toilet paper on the bottom, and on the top are paper towels and a box of tissue.  Not expensive, yet the new-move-in would feel very special as they ‘nest’ with this tag and it’s supplies. 

 

 

8 different Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags to put on various items as described in the post to make it really easy and comfortable to meet new neighbors

8 Free Editable/Fill-in Welcome Neighborhood Tags

Who doesn’t like chocolate right!  A brownie mix, hot pad, oven mitt and spatula round out this welcome gift and tag. The possibilities are endless with a kitchen tag: a whisk, any quick mix, measuring cups, kitchen scissors—the skies the limit with this tag. 

 

 

 

8 different Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags to put on various items as described in the post to make it really easy and comfortable to meet new neighbors

8 Free Editable/Fill-in Welcome Neighborhood Tags

A cleaner and a really good microfiber towel like THIS or kitchen towels with this tag.   Give a one or two of the towels with some cleaner and it would definitely be welcomed by anyone when moving in, since there is always cleaning to be done. 

 

 

 

8 different Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags to put on various items as described in the post to make it really easy and comfortable to meet new neighbors

8 Free Editable/Fill-in Welcome Neighborhood Tags

Any sweet will compliment this tag.  Simply attach a bag of candy, or a jar, or wrap with a ribbon if you’d like and head out to meet the new neighbors. 

 

 

 

8 different Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags to put on various items as described in the post to make it really easy and comfortable to meet new neighbors

8 Free Editable/Fill-in Welcome Neighborhood Tags

This tag is EASY to use with a bag of pre-popped popcorn of any kind, or a box of ready-to-pop.  It doesn’t matter, because you are making the newbies know you are so glad they moved it.

 

 

 

8 different Welcome To The Neighborhood Tags to put on various items as described in the post to make it really easy and comfortable to meet new neighbors

8 Free Editable/Fill-in Welcome Neighborhood Tags

Pick up a house plant, vegetable or herb plant and this tag is ready to go.  If the container isn’t quite what you want to show off, trim a craft sack of any color to use as a cover.  HERE is a twine collection that should cover about any need. 

 

 

And now you can use these EIGHT Welcome To the Neighborhood Tags that are editable/fill-in to make it quick and relaxed as you get out to welcome your new friends.  

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2018

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.

Kids making posters

Posters For Local Assisted Living Or Care Center

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Kids making posters

Kids of all ages can easily make general or themed posters or decorations for your local Assisted Living or Care Center

Posters For Local Assisted Living Or Care Center

If we teach our family to be kind and to serve, it is one of the most important attributes we can give to them. 

It’s an investment of time and energy that’s never a waste, or unappreciated, even if things do not always go perfectly during the process. 

However, if we are persistent, we will see amazing results in how our family reaches out to each other with kindness.

 So how can we help them learn to  serve with all the demands on our busy schedules?

This project is super easy, quick to prepare and inexpensive.

And the best part is besides our family doing a worthwhile activity, those who benefit from our kind service with will appreciate our time and effort.

Another huge plus, this can be done by ALL AGES!!! 

 

PURPOSE: Did you know that many Care Centers and Assisted Living facilities do not have the funds for every day and holiday decorations? 

In fact, some who live there may not even have loved ones near by to visit, or bring them a little something to spruce up their room, or the central area where they gather to eat and visit.

By a simple act of making a general or themed decoration, it shows a huge amount of kindness, as well as teaching our family to look beyond them self and to others.

And don’t worry about how crafty you are, or aren’t, the residents will be thrilled with any type of decoration that you come up with.  

I have younger grand-kids right now; up to eight years old,  and this is how they can be creative, and it’s perfect!

It’s so simple!

Supplies-

poster board, markers, crayons and foam shapes.  You can certainly do anything your heart desires from painting simple foam table decorations to crafting extravagantly; all depending on your ability and the ages of course.  Everything will be appreciated!

Be sure to explain who the posters are for and why they were making them, then let the fun begin!!!

Working on general themed posters to take to the local Assisted Living/Care Center

Kids making posters

Kids of all ages can easily make general or themed posters or decorations for your local Assisted Living or Care Center

Kids making posters

Kids of all ages can easily make general or themed posters or decorations for your local Assisted Living or Care Center

 

Here are the themed posters we did for Halloween – 

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

For this project, we had five posters to deliver when the kiddos were finished. 

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

Due to schedules and school, only one of the grand kids could help deliver the posters on behalf of our family.

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

Meeting many of the residents was the highlight!  They were finishing a program when we arrived, so this little cutie had the opportunity to meet some who lived at this particular care center.

After the shyness wore off, she visited and had a good time.

Those there, expressed their gratitude and happiness at having others care enough to take the time to make decorations for them and bring some ‘holiday fun’ to their doors.  They hoped for ‘every-day’ decorations too:) (Note: There was only one little decorated bowl in the entire place that my daughter and I could see, so this is a need everywhere, if you  are interested in this type of service, for any month of the year!)

Doing service as a family is easy and quick as I bring you ideas for quick, inexpensive, free and fast ideas for all ages. Children, teens, young adults, the entire family. Do you wonder where to find joy? How to be truly happy? Where to turn, what to fill your 'bucket' with that is lasting? How you can bring joy to your family and loved ones? I have ideas and resources for you!

Doing Service is easy as a family!

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2017, 2018

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Hop Scotch

How To Play Old Fashioned Hop Scotch

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Hop Scotch

Hop Scotch

 

Do you know How To Play Old Fashioned Hop Scotch?  

I’ll bet your parents and grandparents did, but have you played it lately?

You could ask them teach you, OR learn from this post and play a game or two.

Hop Scotch has been a favortie game for generations all around the world and popular because it’s perfect for all skill levels and ages.  

WHY is it good for everyone?

Because in the game of Hop Scotch you learn and practice skills such as: how to hop, skip, toss, accuracy, and –  it is just plain fun!  

Here’s a bit of trivia before I go so that you can get outside and play Hop Scotch:  Did you know this game has been around for hundreds of years?  And reportedly even for thousands of years going back to Roman soldiers training for battle! Well, if they could play it so can we!!!

How to Play Hop Scotch

Supplies – 

CHALK

TAW  or GAME MARKERS

 

To Prepare:

1- There are so many ways to draw a Hop Scotch grid, this is the way we do ours, but HERE is a site for other options. Also, this is a book you can order of ways it is played around the world HERE

2- Draw your choice of grid with chalk on the driveway OR you can use masking tape on the carpet inside when the weather is inclement.

Make sure the squares are large enough to fit the foot easily into

3- Each player will need a ‘Marker’ which can be a rock, coin, ‘Ta’, anything.

 

To Start:

1- First player will toss their marker into the first square (the square with the #1 drawn in it) without landing on the border or bounding out.

If the marker does not land in the right square, it is the next players turn.  Continue if you are playing alone.

Hop Scotch

 

2- Hop through the squares on ONE foot SKIPPING the square your marker is in going up the Hop Scotch grid. Only one foot can be on the ground at one time unless two squares are together then both feet hit the ground at the same time.

3- If you step outside the lines, hop on the wrong square or step on the line you lose your turn.

4- Turn at the end of the grid to face the opposite direction so you can go back down the grid and WITHOUT STEPPING outside the lines, squares or on the lines.

Hop Scotch1

 

5- Hop back down the grid in reverse order in the same fashion. 

6- When you get to the square JUST BEFORE THE ONE with your marker, bend down, standing on ONE FOOT, lean down and pick up the marker.

7- Skip over that square and finish the grid.

8- Repeat this process, tossing the marker to the next square.  For example, this time the marker would be thrown into the #2 square.

9- If a mistake is made by tossing the marker into the wrong square, onto a line, outside the grid.  Or if when hopping down the grid a player steps on the line, outside the grid, puts a foot down when they shouldn’t, steps in a box they shouldn’t, etc, it is the next player’s turn and so forth.

10- The first player to toss their marker into all the squares, completing the hop scotch grid successfully wins!

If you want to play this FUN game indoors on a rainy day, I found some GREAT options for you to consider: *THIS  and

*THIS one grab these Bean Bags and

THIS are some great options for hours of entertainment and exercise inside!  

*The first TWO can be used outside for easy set up and take down anywhere, camping, picnic, family reunion, wherever!

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015, 2018

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