While researching Grandparents Day, it became apparent that it is a day set aside for grandparents to bond with grand and great-grandchildren as well as the reverse. According to the National Grandparents Day website, the aim of National Grandparents Day is:
- To honor grandparents
- To give grandparents an opportunity to show love for their children’s children
- To help children become aware of the strength, information and guidance older people can offer.
I also read that 4 million children in 3 million households are being raised by grandparents. It also said that more than 5 million children live in a house where a grandparent is also living there, or has the children the greater part of the day. Obviously that indicates that more grandparents are very involved in the responsibility of raising their grandchildren.
To ALL grandparents, we at A Mother’s Shadow, salute you and appreciate your contribution to help this next important generation be their best. As grandparents, we are in a tremendous position to influence for good. If we are involved in our grand children’s life; they will listen to and respect us, as they feel our love and appreciation for their individual personality and interests.
First up: Grandparents. If you happen to live too away far to be physically involved, then have someone come set up Skype for you, if you don’t know how. Learn to Facebook and text. It can seem a foreign language, but it is the way this generation communicates and they desperately need the wisdom and friendship of grandparents – even if they don’t realize it yet. There may be missed critical opportunities if we don’t learn to use the social media to contact and maintain relationships with our posterity.
So how can we connect? A few ideas include a puzzle I posted about on August 16, 2013. Or, if you live close, take each grandchild, or (if you are up to it multiple grandchildren out for ice cream or to go to a movie. If the distance or your health precludes physical activities, then call, write a letter, text, anything to let EVERY single one of your posterity that you care. The key here is to just make it personal and full of love.
Now for the grandchildren, great-grandchildren and their parents. I have seen time and again, when kindness and devotion are regularly demonstrated, note demonstrated and spoken towards the elderly, particularly members in the family, that same attention and respect comes back to those parents in their later years when they are then the grand or great-grand parents.
The example is set. When the kids are young, you can have them write notes, or even color a picture to send to their grandparents. Show them pictures of their grand and great-grand parents often if they live far away. Regularly mention them in positive tones. When your children are older teens, or on their own, possibly you can gently nudge to call, remember birthdays and such.
Life is busy and things like this can be easily forgotten in the bustle of school, work and young families of their own. Have everyone over to dinner when possible, or if the grandparents are in town, if it is not too difficult on them, have the gang over to say “Hi”. I found a great site with many ideas and printables you may want to check out for your family activity to focus on grandparents.
To Grand, Great-Grandparents, Parents, Kids of all ages, make a wonderful, influential memory this year!
A young boy gave this account: “When we want to see our grandma and grandpa we go to the airport and pick them up. Then when we are done with them, we just take them back to the airport till we are ready to see them again.”
Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today.