Butterflies and Marraige
Emily and Harry have begun to talk about marriage in my novel, ‘A Mother’s Shadow’.
I use the parallel of a butterfly to illustrate why marriage is important to stretch us and make us grow in ways nothing else can; when marriage is an option of course.
If marriage is an option that comes to you, it is the most extraordinarily deeply rewarding experience.
Marriage can quench the drought in life, with a lavish continual misting of daily nourishment, care, teaching, kindness and love.
This does not always come with ease or without effort. In fact, it is with tremendous work and determination at times to keep the marriage intact.*
Here is my analogy:
The butterfly starts as an egg. Upon closely examining the Monarch butterfly egg, you can actually see the tiny butterfly growing inside.
When first married, the dreams, hopes and plans are all incubated and kept warm and safe in the couple’s hearts. All is well, wonderful and dreamy. The next stage is the egg hatching into the Larva or Caterpillar. The caterpillar eats large amounts and grows incredibly fast.
In a marriage, oftentimes things happen quickly with jobs, school, careers, in-laws, beginning of a family, and all that is united in the making of a life together. The third part of the life-cycle of the butterfly is called the Pupa or Chrysalis (caterpillar in the cocoon). Inside this pupa it is rapidly changing. In fact, the limbs, organs, tissues and everything else of the caterpillar will be completely transformed.
- Humble – recognizing talents and abilities come from God
- Submissive – willing to be led by God
- Gentle – kind, not harsh, considerate
- Quickly Forgiving – merciful
- Understanding – full of patience
- Temperance – restraint in anger and temperament
- Diligent – daily trying to keep all of God’s commandments
- Grateful – not being envious or jealous of what others have
From this fourth and critical step, the butterfly is able to fly. It MUST struggle and expend tremendous energy to free itself. Through this difficult progression that the fluid from the body of the butterfly is forced through the wings which allows the butterfly the ability to float and flutter.
Marriage can take an amazing amount of energy at times to do what is needed for solidarity and cohesion as a partnership, just as it takes enormous labor for the butterfly to fly. There can oftentimes be times of drudgery, monotony, frustration and even loneliness.
Yet, if the sunshine of hope, faith, charity and good works are allowed to shine through the difficulties; scattering its rays even during the darkest of days, happiness and love will overpower all gloom and the home will be blessed above imagination.
Most important above all – putting God first and foremost in your marriage, the link between you both, as friends and as a couple, will be bonded and sealed tighter and tighter; repelling anyone and anything who would come between you. The result, Light, Happiness, Love and Joy will be your Life Together.*If abuse, physical or mental, is a threat or an issue contact your local authorities immediately for help.
Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015
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